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# Episode 129 Dirty Tricks

**Speaker 0:** Tom Torero podcast, podcast, a 129 on dirty tricks. Japan. This is my third time, my third year in a row coming to Japan, and I love it. I've said many times, I'm not a big fan of the girls of Japanese daygame. It's okay. I don't mind. That's the icing on the cake. But Asian girls, not my thing. I'm here for everything else from the madness of the cities to their politeness and cleanliness and the nature in the mountains and their mindset. I'm addicted to it plus their food, of course, plus their food. I love it. I've just been in the mountains for a few days at, how do you say, an onsen, one of those hot springs, one of those guest houses pretending to be all traditional. That was wonderful. And now I'm back in the big dirty city. Actually, it's not a dirty city because it's Japan. It's squeaky clean. Although it seems squeaky clean on the surface, but joy of joys, the Japanese kinkiness comes out to play after dark. All those suppressed, all that suppressed naughtiness raises its head as the sun goes down and they go from calm and quiet to utterly debaucherous in a still in a controlled way and I love it. If you wanna know more about Japanese pickup, Japanese daygame, Japanese stories then I made a podcast on it this time last year, podcast 83 on Japanese pickup. And if you wanna see a same day lay me picking up a japanese girl from a to zed that's an infield on stealth seduction last bit of advertising today I'm still putting out daily articles mini articles videos posts my website tomterrera.com. So go to that. I don't know how long it's going to last until I get fed up. Alright. Today's topic is purely practical on some of uncle Tom's dirty tricks to use in field whether that's for your day game, for texting, for your dating, for your relationships, etcetera. It's not high and mighty today. It's not meta game. It's not mental masturbation. It's practical rubber meets the road and it's based on a blog post I wrote, when did I write it, the middle of October called Playing Fair based on a a comment which sums up a lot of comment left or emails received from a guy called Tom. A very excellent name, Thomas. And he wrote somewhere, I can't remember. He wrote, it would be nice to get laid without having to use manipulation, you know. If we could be ourselves and still meet and attract women, that would be ideal. And I replied, life is a game. Play or get played. Idealism is a dangerous thing. And I'll read you a bit of the article. I wrote, does the gazelle ask the lion to not use manipulation? Does one football team ask the other to be themselves and not use tactics and strategies? Does life on earth follow idealistic or realistic realistic properties? Properties? The comment by Tom left on one of the videos is common of the nice guy mindset who wants the world to play fair. By shaming pickup as quote unquote immoral, sneaky, and manipulative, then such guys are misunderstanding the realities of the world and getting burnt because of it. In the past, I've explained this is why I disagree with the radical honesty doctrines in books like Mark Manson's models. It's purple pill or even blue pill, dream world thinking in that it ignores the central tenants of biology. Play or get played. Hustle or be hustled. As much as we all wish the world was based on equalism, harmony, and love, biological realities wake us up. Girls have a sexual strategy just like guys. Girls tell as many, if not more, lies as you to try and win. The female manipulation toolkit is just as advanced as any top player. Push up bras, makeup, airbrushed selfies, stealth plates spinning, secret society liaisons. The nice guy would be shocked to know what she's really up to. The world is not fair. Life is a game. I finished the article by saying either learn the rules and level up or forever be at the mercy of those who have. So that was the only meta bit of the podcast. You could say in that it's not called game for nothing. Alright. And again, just like evolution, there's not some kind of consciousness to it. It's a process. It's, physical laws like, thermodynamics. And whether you like it or not, this is, the game, the dance that men and women play. You don't need to think of it like a fight or a boxing match. I always say think of it like a dance. Women have their agenda, men have their agenda. But even the word agenda is loaded. It's like Richard Dawkins book, The Selfish Gene. You hear the word selfish and you think that's terrible, that's manipulative, that's wrong, that's evil. It it is what it is because the purpose of life on earth is for DNA to keep replicating and it's gone from single cells to multicellular organisms that exist in societies but we're out for our own genetic legacy through replication. You've read Lord of the Flies so you understand me calling these dirty tricks is just a bit provocative really because yeah, you got to learn the rules of the game. You got to take advantage of the loopholes. Girls certainly are. Alright. They're thinking about babies and providers and settling down and strong DNA. And we're thinking about hive SMV females mating opportunities and spreading our seed. So today's practical tips, I'm gonna give you 10 of them. I call them dirty tricks. They're just things that I don't think I've spoken about before. Maybe I've hinted out. I've got hundreds more of these. I keep them. I scribble them down every time I come up with something in field that works whether that's daygame texting or in an open relationship. Loads of them obviously I put in street hustle but obviously anyone who's on the street, anyone who's texting all the time happens upon new material. So I call these my new, dirty tricks in my toolkit. They are from the Torero school of cunning which hopefully leads to cunning linguist. Let's dive in. Number one, sneakily turn her phone to silent or turn it off. Now, why do we need to do that? When you've bounced home after venue two or it's been a same day lay and you've done a bit of time distortion from the instant day to bouncing around to coffee to alcohol to yours. She's back at yours and many many times her phone keeps buzzing, keeps ringing. I've had this when you're escalating on the bed. I've had this when I'm naked with a girl and her mom keeps ringing her or her best friend is cock blocking her. This is classic female cattiness which I've spoken about. So when she's in the bathroom or when you know her phone's on the bed and you're making out, if you can just click the side button to silent. If you're brave, you can switch it off, but usually I just put it to silent or put the phone on the floor or put her coat on top of her phone just to stop that cock blocking. You can thank me later. That was dirty trick number one. Dirty trick number two is related to open loops, is related to flipping the script, getting her to chase you. I've mentioned things like this before but this particular line is gold, Torero gold. So when you're doing the time distortion thing, if you don't know what the time distortion thing is by the way, my latest video, the Blade Runner Japan thing where I talk about bouncing for momentum and momentum for compliance and spinning the hamster in her head through changing locations rapidly. Okay? Overloading the senses. And when I'm on the way to a bar or to a venue or even in the bar, I use the liner, oh, I've got this great thing to show you but oh, you know what? I don't actually know you well enough. You could be crazy. You know? It's down a little alley. You could kill me. I'll show you another time. Maybe. So you hint at a location and then you change your mind. And it's the push. Attraction is created in the playful push. Grin as you say it, obviously. And it's flipping the script because what does the girl do? She'll beg you to show you that secret little alley, show you that bar, show you that downstairs karaoke thing, show you that cool secret room upstairs in the bar. And then you say, okay, well, you're nice, you know, you got one point. If you can get to three points, I'll show you the thing. The point system, which is in street hustle, is classic. It's a qualification routine gets her to chase. So dirty trick number two, you say you're gonna show her somewhere really cool but ah, you know what I don't know you well enough. It's also calling out the LMR before she does. That's one of the classic Torero tricks. If you don't know it, throughout the date, throughout the bounce home you say wow this is crazy we should slow down, I don't normally do this I don't even know you if you're really cocky you can grin and say I'm on my period so nothing's gonna happen. Alright dirty trick number three But you should play fair, Tom. No. Another dirty trick. Again, qualification but remembering the principle that girls don't want to just be seen physically because they know they're hot, cute 19 year old she knows she's hot and guys all the time say you're hot baby you're hot. So the compliment works but that's why I say take it back. You know you say you're hot because what I noticed is your wonderful giraffe legs. I said that yesterday. Yeah, it's the push after the pull. But something which I haven't said is that when you're on the date, can do something a bit more serious where you use a bit of a false qualifier I think is the technical term in game where you say in the beginning I thought you were hot but now I like your ex too. I don't mean ex boyfriend. Ex as in insert something. So often I'll say, know, in the beginning, it's interesting because in the beginning I I just thought you were hot obviously but now I really like your sense of adventure. Alright. But you could say, oh, but now I I really like your geekiness. Oh, but now I really like your introverted side. So what you're saying is, I appreciate you for more than just your looks. Now, is a false qualifier because you probably just want a banger. And then afterwards, maybe be you appreciate it for more if you want to date her. But it makes the girl go, wow. He doesn't just like me for my looks or he doesn't seem that way. He appreciates my geekiness or my introverted nature or my wacky taste in socks or films or whatever. So use that line. This is tip number three, dirty trick. In the beginning, I thought you were hot but now I like your insert something too. Alright. Along similar lines, dirty trick number four. Bit of a sneaky one this. It's the false future project. Now in old school game, might know what future projection is. It's just a way to get into a bit more rapport and deep rapport. It's very sneaky if you use it too much because you're essentially implying you want to be her boyfriend. So on the date, you'll say things like in old school game, you'd say to her, oh, wow. Yeah. You know, you like Metallica. I like Metallica. We'll definitely go in a couple of months time when they come to Tokyo or Paris or New York or you say, oh yeah yeah, eventually you and I will go skiing and I'll throw snowballs at you know, it's cool that you can ski. Future projection. So like the qualification saying I like you more than just your looks. Future projection is saying this is going to last I. E. In the girls head on a subconscious level she hears this is not a one night stand. It's false because it probably is and it's a pickup. Trick is a dirty trick. But, you can do it in a smaller way. So you're not implying that you're the boyfriend. I use a lot of sprinkling false future projections when she might mention a director she really likes or a film she really likes. And I'll just throw in, okay, cool. In the future you can show that to me. Or she might talk about part of the city that she loves and I'll say, Next time you can show that to me or next time I'm gonna show you this or in the future we'll do karaoke. Anything which says in the future we will. We is the magic word. It's the wee bubble, not w e e but w e where it's you and her against the world. It fits in with this time distortion thing. So imply that you're gonna do stuff with her. That's the message. Alright. Number five. Again, a dirty trick, of revealing a false weakness. Now, shock horror. I know I spend all my time nagging you. Don't be quote unquote vulnerable. Opening yourself up like the nice guy crying on her shoulder, sobbing telling her how hopeless you are with girls and with money and with fitness and with life. No. It's a pussy repellent. But if you're too much of the bad boy, if you're too much of the lover, the player, the cad, this can also backfire. So typically a guy goes from super nice guy to super hey, I'm super cool. I've got no vulnerabilities. And it just seems too much of the two d player stereotype. Girls love the fact that somewhere inside you is mister softie and you can hint at it and I'm gonna give you the rule that you can hint it once. Okay. Somewhere in the day just once hint at being vulnerable. And I don't mean breaking down and crying but, it's good to say that you have a phobia of something and it's the dirty trick bit is to say you have a phobia of something that's actually really cute. So you want the girl's reaction to be, oh. So she sees inside, wow, he's not just this two d mister tough guy, mister James Bond. Even in the Bond movie, what is it? Skyfall, I think. It cuts from the fight on the train which is the beginning of the film in Istanbul to Bond being out of shape, beaten up in a bar in Thailand and then having to do a fitness test I think back in London. And you get a a bit of a a glimpse of a bond that you don't know and you think wow he's a he's a human as well. Anyway, back to this sneaky trick I said let's keep it practical. So I often say to girls, don't steal this from me please. I often say to girls that I have a phobia and girls always go, oh oh yeah, what is your phobia? What is your phobia? And I say it's really embarrassing actually. I have a phobia of hedgehogs because when I was little, we had one in our garden and I was feeding it milk and I put some on my finger and I put my finger too close and it bit my finger. So now whenever I see a picture of a hedgehog, I remember that memory. Did that really happen? Kind of. I did have a hedgehog in my garden that I used to feed milk to and it didn't bite me and I don't have a fear of hedgehogs. But it works every time and that's it. Alright. You don't milk it. Clever link to the hedgehog. You don't over overdo it. You just drop it in and you might use it as callback humor later on. In a text message, you might send her a picture of a scary hedge hog or whatever. But get her to talk about her vulnerabilities. It's just a bit of deep rapport. You could say false deep rapport because you don't wanna go into Jody Nice Guy. Alright. That was number 12345. Was that 5? Okay. 6 a dirty texting trick when you're pinging back and forth that means between the feeler text and the date invite or perhaps the date invites fail so you've rolled off for forty eight hours instigated the pinging once more like nothing's happened because you don't want to seem butthurt. And then in the evening at some point, I'm gonna send her a quote unquote wrong message. So I'm pretending that I'm sending this to somebody else and she suddenly got a glimpse of, oh wow, Tom has another life. Tom goes to parties even if you don't, even if you're an old introvert like me. Tom has other girls which is true pre selection, jealousy. So it's, an error which is created by you. So just send her a message which is meant for somebody else quote unquote. So I might send her the message out of the blue. On my way. You got whiskey? Question mark. And she'll always reply like what you're on your way like what what's this about whiskey and then obviously you reply oh sorry crust wires not meant for you whatever or just don't reply but yeah it's a sneaky one because it always causes her to re engage. So I use those often on the fifty fifty girls that the pinging is going okay but maybe a date request or even two, that's my maximum has failed. Left it forty eight hours, that's a little re engage text. Alright. The next dirty trick which is similar to the one where I was talking about false qualifiers saying, you know, I thought you're hot but now I like your whatever. So you're on the date and you're talking about beauty and fake boobs and you're doing a bit of verbal escalation maybe you're doing my Miami routine where you know you went to Miami and it was plastic fantastic and all the girls have the same plastic surgeon. You probably know that routine inside out out if you've seen stealth seduction because it's on most of the infields and lately I've been throwing in the line that I know this girl she looks like but she's actually really smart. And use those lines with a heavy emphasis on the words, you know a girl who's not just beautiful but she's really smart. Now, it's a clever clever dirty trick because what it's saying is that, yeah, you know a girl who's really smart but what you're actually doing is qualifying the girl you're currently with. And how this works is that it gets her ham ster cog spinning and she'll always jump in to qualify herself. She'll always try and say, well, oh, yeah. I I actually did a masters or I read this book or I I do that. It's great. Again, it's the way of saying you appreciate girls or you pretend to appreciate girls for more than their looks. So use the line that you know a girl who's not just hot, but she's really smart as well and you really appreciate that. Alright. The next dirty trick. It's a simple one word dirty trick, but it is fucking powerful. All these have been tested by the way hundreds of times in field so test them for yourself. It's the word usually and put this at the end of a compliment. So you're on the date I'm not talking about the you look nice compliment I'm oh by the way there is a word that you can use after you look really nice and that's the word because I've said that in daygame point zero. Excuse me. I just want to say you look really nice because it stops her walking away. Anyway, this word is usually. So you might be on the date and you say, you know, it's funny. You're you're really introverted. That's really good. Usually. Again, it's a qualification routine. You can say, I love Spanish girls. Usually. Or I really go for tall girls. Usually. It's implying implying a a hidden hidden danger. Danger. It's It's implying implying that you're not automatically swayed a 100% by looks. Again, it's saying to the girl on a subconscious level, prove yourself to me, which is the highest form of game as I've said many times flipping the script getting her to chase or at least to feel like chasing because it's a dirty trick. You are really chasing tail that's why we say chasing tail going out on the pull pull pull because at any point if a girl said look do you want to go home and fuck? The guy would be like yep okay abandoned game let's go but you're giving the girl that impression I always say give the girl the gift of chasing you or she at least feels like she's chasing you. Alright another way of doing this, it's a magic line that you can use on text or in person on a day. It's a dirty trick and you just use the phrase, how normal are you? I use this a lot on text. Now, I use it on the initiation message rather than my classic Tom Torero copyrighted, hey, Spanish pirate, random but cool to meet you. Are you always so friendly to new people? Tom. That's the classic, filo text and that in itself has got a little bit of qualification in it. Are you always so friendly to new people? Implying that she's the one who picked you up. But now I might just say hey cool to meet you or hey chicken if she was dressed like a chicken hey chicken cool to meet you how normal are you question mark cheeky face it's a killer qualification question dirty trick because it can be taken in two ways. It's an ambiguous statement. Is she gonna say I am normal like don't worry Tom, I'm I'm not just hot I am normal or is she thinking oh no I don't want to be normal is he worried that I'm too normal? Girls usually take it the second way and they justify without me asking why they're not normal and she'll say oh you know but I've got a tattoo or I'm into this or I do this or I'm not just a student or I know my job's boring etcetera etcetera. So it's a bit like asking why you single on the date. It's another qualification question but you can just throw it in there at any point. How normal are you? And the last Tom Torero dirty trick for today's podcast is linked to flipping the script again. You see how most of these dirty tricks are higher level because sneaky Tom Torero is pretending that he's not quite sold on the girl. Yeah. You're hot, but what else have you got going on for you, that classic game routine? You flip the script and you use the words words creepy or stalker. I do this a lot on the date. I used it to full effect the other night when I got a new notch. And when you sense that it's going well and it's probably in the bag, of course, it's not always in the bag, but you feel right, she's definitely hooked. Let's get her to chase even more. It's quite a fun thing to do on the date. See how much you can playfully push her away. And I was saying to this girl things like, if I show you where I live, you're not gonna sit outside my house every day, are you? You're not gonna sit in the tree opposite my house with a camera. Or I I was saying, yeah, you you are such a creep. You know, I bet you're one of these stalker types. And what does it do? Calling a girl a creep or calling a girl a stalker. It's flipping things on its head and it's getting her to qualify that she's not. It's implying that you're the prize, that she's the one because these are things that girls will accuse guys of obviously in a playful way but you're saying no you're the one who's chasing guys and I'm not quite sold you know I'm not sure about you. It links to this blog post I wrote which we shall finish with called role reversal spikes. It was from the end of October. It's on my blog. That's why I'm nagging you. Go to tomtorero.com because there's all this stuff for free. Right? No more nagging about practical advice. There's loads of stuff. And yeah, I'll read it. We got five minutes. I'll read it. I say one of the most powerful ways to easily flip the script and spike things up from social to sexual is to that she's the one picking you up. Even though she knows you're teasing on a subconscious level, she'll feel the frame shift to you being the price. You can pepper this into your daygame and dating right up until the point she's back at yours. Remember the aim is to be flirty not funny. Try delivering these lines with a cheeky smirk rather than a clown grin. I've written about that today actually, the dangers of over gaming. Her indignation and playful squeaks, which is what happens when you call a girl creepy or a stalker, will let you know you're doing it right. So the playful slap on the arm, she's like, oh my god, you're terrible. No. I'm not like that. That's how you know you're doing it right. As with everything in pickup, it's a playful smirk. Alright? It's the twinkling eyes. You certainly shouldn't have that serious stalker face. So lines, I think I've taken these from my cheap PDF on Amazon how to flirt with girls but they're all here for free so lines to flip the roles as I say flip the script you can say to a girl slow down I've only just met you so you can use that on the street when she touches you, you know, the classic mystery line. This shit's not for free. It's $5 every time you touch. Do you want to start a tab? I've used it on texts. I use it a lot on dates. So slow down. I've only just met you. You need to buy me dinner first. Okay? I need trust, comfort, and connection. Right now, all we have is lust. And guys go, but old school game doesn't work. What's the point of learning lines? It fucking works. Alright? You just need to embed it to become a supernatural. I do all these lines on autopilot. I love the line, you you make me feel so cheap. I feel so used. Stop looking at me like a piece of meat. Stop looking at me like a fat kid looks at a hamburger in McDonald's. You're implying that she's the one picking you up. Genius. The classic line, we can have fun but please don't touch. Please don't touch. This shit's not for free. Slow down. I don't wanna get hurt. It's such a funny line if you deliver that with a smirk. Let's slow down. Let's take this slowly. I don't wanna get hurt. And then the line I've already told you, that was the tenth dirty trick. You're not gonna stalk me are you so yeah let's go back to mine but hang on if I show you where I live you're not gonna stalk me are you you are so creepy I've already said that you are so needy just look at her in the eyes at some point on the date and say you are so needy. Girls will flip out, they'll go mad in a good way. On the date when she's giving you a bit of deep eye contact just shake your head and you know you know my line my mother warned me about Japanese girls. What what did she say? You can combine it with the line just stop. She's like, what? Just stop. Stop what? She'll say and you say, stop undressing me with your eyes. You know, you're such a pervert. It's great. Dirty tricks. I'm not just a piece of meat. I've said that one. If she glances at you, say, you know, you can stop checking me out now. It's okay. Stop sneakily trying to check me out. God, you're such a pervert. I've already said it. I need trust, comfort, and connection. I love the line. It's such a jock line. Don't get your hopes up. I'm not that easy. So, don't get your hopes up. I'm not that easy. It's up there with the king of lines. Nothing's gonna happen tonight. I'm on my period. You really have to be cocky to pull that one off. That would sound really weird coming from an insecure shy nice guy. But you gotta have a fat smirk on your face where you say, look, I'm on my period. And girls love it if you deliver it. Because as with most things in game, the caveat is delivery. And guys will often say, I tried that line. I tried your dirty trick number three and it didn't work. I said exactly what you said. It's always in my delivery versus your delivery. Hank Moody's delivery versus mister Bean's delivery. Same line. They could both say the same thing but it's it's all in the delivery. And the last one we should finish with on the blog it says stop trying to impress me. So at any point say to the girl, look just stop trying to impress me. Okay? It's creepy. Flipping the script. There we go. I think, old father time is, coming up. So we're gonna have to say sayonara from Japan next week. I might still be here. I might not. I've been asked to speak something between Japan and The UK and I'm not sure if I'm going yet. But, I will keep you posted on my blog. Those were some dirty tricks. Like I said, I've got hundreds more scribbled down in little black notebooks and in the future, I might publish them. I might not. I might be selfish and keep them for myself. From Japan, Sayonara. Goodbye. Speak to you next week.