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title: Episode 141 Flirting Masterclass (Torero Date Infield)
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# Episode 141 Flirting Masterclass (Torero Date Infield)

**Speaker 0:** Tom Torero podcast a 141, a lazy podcast from a lazy location. Because most of this podcast is not me jibber jabbering in your ear, but it's an infield from the summer of two thousand and sixteen. Some gutter game in Toronto with a French girl, who I take from pretty much a no girl to raising her buying temperature, turning up the gas to a very horny state. So that's two thirds of the podcast today. I'm away with my mom in blue sky Portugal. I'm here in Faro. So before I go home, thought I would, do this rather than just lie by the pool and feel sorry for myself because I've still got this, bit of cold. The eye infection still makes me look like the elephant man, but there's always room for a Tom Torero podcast. That's what she said. Announcement, just like last week, remember the boot camps I'm doing with Mystery and Bexter in Russia in May, one in Saint Petersburg, one in Moscow, nightgame meets daygame. Bexter and Mystery, they're teaching the the seminar portion and the night club bar, lounge bar portion. And I'm teaching the Saturday daygame sessions in Russia with the hottest women, in my opinion, on the planet. And the temperature will be pretty good. In May, it'll be lovely. So the information, remember, it's not booking through me, it's booking through them and the link I shall put below on iTunes and YouTube. Alright. Let's get into this audio in field. I haven't put it out before. I found it when I was transferring data onto a new hard drive. And I thought, oh, let's have a listen. I remember this and listening back to the audio, I thought, fuck, I don't remember how it started. The drama involved at the beginning because I meet this girl, it's quite late in the evening, it's a gutter game session and she walks past me and she looks at me and I detect a little smile. But it turns out when I open her, as you'll hear, that she's about to cry. And she does cry, not with happiness and joy because she's met Tom Torero, but because she's been stood up. She's been I think this is was meant to be the third date with some guy and he stood her up. What a badass. And anyway, it's ruined her night and she's all dressed up with nowhere to go. When she's down in the dumps and rather than trying to be her friend and comfort her and console her and be her emotional tampon as they say, I know that I have to start soft, right, And get hard over time. So the first step is to take her mind off things, you know, changing her mood, not her mind, so taking her mind off the logical reasons that she gives while she has to go home and running some comfort. But remember it, I spike it up and you'll hear me leading and then taking her on an instant date. And even though it's the night time, she says she doesn't drink. So this is a non alcoholic date. But I know I've got to listen to her actions, not her words. I've got to focus on raising this buying temperature. I can't just rely like many gamers do on beer and shots. This has got to be done with her being stone cold sober. And I've got to be persistent as you'll hear when I get her from the street to the bar, but not needy. But in the night time with gutter game, yeah, you are a bit more persistent because you're like, you're going all in, right? So if she's not going to come on the instant date, well, you don't want take a phone number at 10PM at night unless she's your dream girl. So that's why at the beginning I'm getting her to come on the date. Now when she's on the date, I'm thinking, okay, again changing her mood, not her mind. Girls have this forebrain hindbrain disconnect like men do but girls have it more extreme. I've spoken about it many times where in the forebrain it's all the current thoughts and she's thinking about how sad she feels and the guy that stood her up and why she has to go home. And the hindbrain which is the primal instincts of speaking to a guy who's taken her on a day, I pulled her, I'm flirting with her, I'm being verbally on then I'm being physically on and this is turning her on, okay? So she feels that disconnect, she expresses it at some points but I listen to her actions not her words, alright? And obviously this is a consensual date. I wish I didn't have to fucking say that in every podcast but if you take little lines out of context, yeah, someone could stitch me right up. But anyway, we raise the buying temperature in an unusual way which I should patent on Dragon's Den. This has never been done before. I've never seen it done in an infield and it just happened accidentally because she likes to sing. I raise her buying temperature by singing. Now in the past, I've done karaoke day twos as day threes even especially in the Former Soviet Union. I enjoy karaoke. It's a bit like riding bikes. It spins girls head around. It's full of emotions. It's supercharged. Music does that. And it's fantastic adventure bubble. But here we just start singing as you'll hear in the cafe. Lots of people are listening. The waiter, he's in on it, I bring him in. I use the other table staff to raise the buying temperature, so I flirt with everyone. Remember, game is flirting with everyone. So you hear how I make fun of the waiter Edward and I flirt with the waitresses and I pull the table in next to us and I say, you know, you gotta pay us money if you want us to sing. I'm raising the buying temperature of the bar. And remember buying temperature is transferable, so she feels this more and more and more. It's changing her mood, it's not logically changing her mind. When men communicate, yeah, we're trying to ration be rational with each other and rationalize why we should change a certain opinion. But with girls, no. Right? You can't speak to them like that. It's much better. I I see it as horse whispering. Think of it like horse whispering. And again, I come back to the analogy of teaching children. You can argue with a child but it's pointless. Okay? You can get really strict with a a horse that you're trying to train but it's pointless. Much better, that's what horse whispering is to, be in tune with it in a non verbal way, sub communication. Sounds airy fairy but you'll hear the effect of singing. Right? You'll hear me mixing in the verbal and the physical spikes with being light and fluffy. Right? This is what I mean by horse whispering. Too many guys have this two d alpha image in their mind of must be tough, must be cool, must be bond. Hey, what's your tell me a guilty secret. You know, it's it's too caricatured, it's too flat. When you're speaking to when you're around horses, well, you don't startle them. When you're with kids, it's about this light and fluffy nature. And of course, that doesn't mean friendly or gay or friend zone. But you'll hear how I shift from that kind of talking to lower and slower and how the verbal is replaced with the physical. But I was glad when I was putting just a bit of this together for this thirty minute podcast, I realized this is a great clip for demonstrating so much of what is in Stealth Seduction, the Torero Toolkit. You'll hear me go through all the classics. So with the verbal stuff, you obviously hear the daygame and the compliment and the stacking. You hear me doing the elephant in the room when I laugh about trying to seduce her. I qualify her, you know, the old Mystery Method, you're beautiful but are you interesting? On the date, you'll hear some verbal escalation with the word bear because we're talking about my trip around Canada with Ian, with Craig in a van and I say, we saw a bear and she laughs about the French meaning of the word bear. I do parody chode by saying I'm a good Christian boy. I do the angel devil routine where I examine her horns and show her my halo. I do my routine about, you know, cat on the inside, cat on the outside, tiger on the inside. My mother warned me about gills who looks sweet. I do, the two points, can you cook, can you clean? Putting you on a point system. I preempt Delamar by saying this is crazy, this is so random. I do the verbal routine of what kind of guys do you like and I do my parody brute of saying, you know, guys just are like a, b and c with very simple one brain and another brain. And you'll notice how her buying temperature gets so high that she starts talking about sex shops and sex toys and why nice guys don't cut it with her. And then you hear it's a shame that it's audio for the podcast but you you'll hear me doing the physical. So you'll hear the tattoo routine, the ring routine. Like I said, when I feel her horns, is she a good girl or a bad girl? You'll hear me doing the, wow, you're so skinny as I touch her waist, pulling her in, talking about allergies, good smell, wow, you smell so good, drive by kisses, the kiss, taking her hand, pretend proposals. That's a lot of fucking material for free on a podcast. So if you're a lazy fuck and you don't wanna buy stealth seduction, it's fine. Most of it's in there, plus a lot of good qualification, I should say. Once I've cheered her up a little bit, I start going hard. That's what my grandmother used to say. I say, you know, why are you single? It's weird. I say, you know, you're bitchy. You look bitchy. I say, why are you in Canada? Explain yourself, you know. And I get her to sing. So it's a very interesting one. I hope you enjoy it. But back to relaxing, back to spending time with my mom before flying home. And, I will speak to you next week. Ta da.

**Speaker 1:** Sorry. Can I say one thing? Do you speak English?

**Speaker 2:** Yes.

**Speaker 1:** You look very nice, very relaxed. Oh yes. And I said why is she so relaxed?

**Speaker 2:** Oh actually I'm sad.

**Speaker 1:** Oh no, Saturday night sad. Yes. Because you've been working too much because No,

**Speaker 2:** because I had a date and

**Speaker 1:** You are French? Yeah, I'm French. You had a Yeah, What happened? Was too wonderful or he was too terrible or he didn't come?

**Speaker 2:** And you dressed up in your white? Yeah, can I return on my own actually? No,

**Speaker 1:** come and have a little drink. I have half an hour. I've just left my friends I was going to go and get some, Wi Fi actually but if you'd like a little drink we could have a drink.

**Speaker 2:** I'm not really

**Speaker 1:** good for it. Don't be sad just have a glass of wine that's fine. But I don't drink alcohol. Oh well have a glass of lemonade and I will have a glass of wine. You're French and you don't drink alcohol?

**Speaker 2:** Sorry? You are French but no alcohol? No alcohol, yes. That's fine. Well, my family family works in the wine but I don't drink alcohol. I'm

**Speaker 1:** British and the British cliche

**Speaker 2:** of the French girl

**Speaker 1:** is the wine. And you don't drink? Because you are fit, you like to be fit, you like to be Oh I don't like the taste of it just that. So don't drink wine drink beer if you don't like beer drink what I drink, whisky. Whisky. Yeah, it's good. You can have an orange juice. I'm not

**Speaker 2:** really good,

**Speaker 1:** I need to Why are you going home? Because listen, you were ready to So go you don't want to go home and if you sit at home, you're gonna feel terrible. You're gonna sit there watching TV No.

**Speaker 2:** I want to sleep and

**Speaker 1:** Why? To begin another day tomorrow. You were waiting waiting for him for a long time. You were standing, waiting and he didn't come. Shit. That's

**Speaker 2:** And he disappointed me.

**Speaker 1:** He disappointed you. That's men you see. Men will always disappoint.

**Speaker 2:** Yeah I'm

**Speaker 1:** Would you like something to wake you up like a coffee? I

**Speaker 2:** know you you

**Speaker 1:** you're crying. I'm trying to seduce you yeah it's difficult.

**Speaker 2:** It's very difficult.

**Speaker 1:** This is the best moment because I know you're single. I know you don't have a husband, I know you don't have a boyfriend, you are French, I am British, enemies and friends.

**Speaker 2:** You happy as well. I'm just an attraction

**Speaker 1:** But I'm a guy so first of all I see what does she look like I saw you there I said very nice then the guy says okay I hope she's interesting and then we see if you're interesting. When you're a young guy it doesn't matter when you're so old like me you think please I hope she's interesting I hope she's interesting I hope she's not weird that's what I Yes but I think that I

**Speaker 2:** saw that several times.

**Speaker 1:** Do you have cats?

**Speaker 2:** No. No animals. I'm Sorry,

**Speaker 1:** sir. I'm allergic. Good. I like dogs but I hate cats and I hate women with cats because it's a sign of madness. The first sign of madness. The second sign is when you cut off all your hair but you didn't cut off all your hair. You will have a herbal tea. I will have a bit. Hello. Can we sit outside? There's a few tables. I'm very trustworthy. Extremely trustworthy.

**Speaker 2:** Just, what lager do you have on tap? We have our cobblestone lager, we also have a honey lager. I'll take a honey lager and And a chamomile. That's on it. With honey. Chamomile

**Speaker 1:** honey honey tea and a honey beer. That's it that's it for now. Thank you. Thank you very much. Yeah. We'll leave that. Do you have any tattoos?

**Speaker 2:** Yes. You can

**Speaker 1:** secret one. Not not an English girl one here. Like a big butterfly. It's terrible.

**Speaker 2:** No. It's small. Oh, good. It was a gift from my 18

**Speaker 1:** A gift from your mother? No. I've When I No. Do you know what these fingers means? The ring, Poseidon, adventure, Zeus, bossy, you know, this, Bacchus, the god of wine.

**Speaker 2:** Thank you. Thank you.

**Speaker 1:** What is the French word for bear? What does that mean in French? Prostitute. It's a different meaning. Oh, no. What does it mean, Isabelle? It's have sex. Have sex? Well, I am a good Christian boy, so no sex. No sex before marriage. Can you see the light? Can you see the light above my head? No. I can't. With you I can see little. My mother used to say Tom be be careful of girls who look sweet and shy because inside a cat is a tiger. And she was right. Yes. The loud girls, actually, are boring, but the quiet girls from the library, psychotic.

**Speaker 2:** Yes. Be careful.

**Speaker 1:** I'm thinking well, every guy is thinking, why is she single? Why is she single? Because she's pretty. She's pretty. She seems interesting, at least cultural. Why is she single? Why is she single? Remember that movie Bridget Jones?

**Speaker 2:** Yeah. I'm Bridget Jones. I'm Bridget Jones.

**Speaker 1:** By myself.

**Speaker 2:** That's my soul. And

**Speaker 1:** then you cry with a hairbrush and some ice cream. The

**Speaker 2:** the only difference, I I don't drink and I don't like sugar.

**Speaker 1:** But you still sleep with your boss? What's his name? Mister Darcy? Mister

**Speaker 2:** Darcy? No. I don't no. I don't I don't sleep with my boss.

**Speaker 1:** Oh, boring. Well, you work in a school. So your boss is probably not so Excited. Why are you in Canada in Telmet? Did you run away from

**Speaker 2:** No. I wanted to travel and also discover another part of the world and to improve my English. Yeah. So yeah. That was a that was a good idea.

**Speaker 1:** Anything else I can get for you? So just happiness. Happiness.

**Speaker 3:** I forgot. I I mean, I guess you already have liquid happiness. We got some liquid happiness, but temporary. That's temporary.

**Speaker 1:** Thank you, sir. Cheers, ma'am. What do you play? You're not a pianist.

**Speaker 2:** I'm a singer.

**Speaker 1:** Okay. If you give me a piano or guitar, I will play, you'll sing. You'll make some money.

**Speaker 2:** I needed to sing.

**Speaker 1:** That was nice. Stop singing because it's it's attractive. If a girl can sing or draw, I find that very nice. My karaoke song is always Frank Sinatra. Fly me to the moon and then New York New York. New York New York. Finish with New York. Always finish with New York New York.

**Speaker 2:** I don't know that.

**Speaker 1:** You do. Start spreading the news. I'm leaving Go around with a hat. It's $20 that is. Thank you very much. It's good. Thank you very much. We'll get a little hat. Thank you. There's more there's more where that came from. Very nice. But you are very skinny. You know, very skinny. Very skinny. Skinny. Skinny.

**Speaker 2:** Oh, I'm not skinny.

**Speaker 1:** Are sorry, my man. You are skinny.

**Speaker 2:** It's

**Speaker 1:** just an excuse to touch you. Yes. It's an old trick. I know. Father taught me this trick. Another one is to say, oh, you look very stressed. Yeah.

**Speaker 2:** Oh, you definitely Yes. You're Oh, we are.

**Speaker 1:** That's enough. Show me the money. You are stressed actually but that's from right typing. Doing too much computer. Facebook. Instagram. Tinder. You have a cat? I'm a cat. I know, I know you have a cat. You move like a cat, you like like a cat and inside a cat You can be inside a cat. As a tiger, I am allergic to cats, that's true.

**Speaker 2:** Cat hair. What am I? Oh, I know this wine. Oh, you do know wine. I cook. I cook this wine.

**Speaker 1:** Two points. You cook. Do you clean?

**Speaker 2:** You're white. What else could you ask for now? Thank you.

**Speaker 1:** It was very crazy, very random.

**Speaker 2:** The ugly woman in the street.

**Speaker 1:** No, you looked you looked at me. You looked at me. I'm crying. You weren't crying. Walked It was just after. No. No. No. You walked past me. Few minutes after. You said I'm very sad. I want to cry.

**Speaker 2:** And I cried. If nothing happened tonight because I have something else and someone else better for me. So Exactly.

**Speaker 1:** You never know when you when you meet a wonderful, intelligent, perfect, richest, learning, learning, God. God rolls the dice. You never know.

**Speaker 2:** I worked close in the last year.

**Speaker 1:** In

**Speaker 2:** a music school. And I remember

**Speaker 1:** all the It's full of tourist and sex shops.

**Speaker 2:** Sex shops are really good and you can find some nice dress.

**Speaker 1:** Yes. Show me photos.

**Speaker 2:** Just because I chipped.

**Speaker 1:** Already just for research. Maybe

**Speaker 2:** this one. Because I don't want a man in my life I can have a maybe. You can have a doll or a toy. Yeah.

**Speaker 1:** It's more reliable. It takes batteries. Oh, yes. It's so You don't need to talk. You don't need he won't cancel the date. Oh. And he won't cheat on you. Thank you. He just stays by your bed. He's the perfect man. Okay. Is it is it a category like the sweet guy or the bad boy? Because many girls go with, you know, winter.

**Speaker 2:** Sweet and bad? Not bad? Not too bad? Impossible. Yeah, that's possible. Not too bad.

**Speaker 1:** That here, that's here. Oh, that's

**Speaker 2:** like that. So I'm here.

**Speaker 1:** Oh sweet.

**Speaker 2:** No, is sweet.

**Speaker 1:** Sweet is like flowers, chocolates, poems. Bad is like nightclub toilet,

**Speaker 2:** really bad you know. Oh yeah, really bad. I didn't even try that. Did you ever try that? No, don't know, I said the toilet's a lot, that's dirty.

**Speaker 1:** Dirty is sometimes exciting. Apparently. Maybe. No.

**Speaker 2:** Inside the car, yes. But so, the middle.

**Speaker 1:** Yeah. Little bit good, bit bad. Yes.

**Speaker 2:** We say like And himself, just not a dog. Oh, yeah. Everything for you. I don't have my ideas. I don't have my feelings. It's just you I don't like that.

**Speaker 1:** No. I don't like a girl when she's too sweet, too how you say naive? She believes like a Disney movie, you know? The prince will come. Will give you flat or shutter. Oh, I'm sorry. Give me your hand. Waiter. Alright. Go down on my knee.

**Speaker 2:** Yes,

**Speaker 1:** I believe. You just told me you don't need a guy. You told me you don't believe. Yes, but I believe at this kind of story. Every girl is told this story when she's five years old. And I'm

**Speaker 2:** I'm actually under 16.

**Speaker 1:** It's too attractive.

**Speaker 2:** Oh, no.

**Speaker 1:** I'm a simple guy. Don't press buttons. We say in English, don't press buttons. Button? Okay. A man has ABC. Remember your mother told you this. Sleep, food, steak, Sex, if you press the button that's what happens. A woman is like a computer you know. A C X D one four nine you know lights flashing everywhere and with one girl you think okay this button is this and then the next girl you press this button don't touch don't touch don't touch oh fuck but a guy like a bear you know a b's and the dream we say the dream is to have everything together to sleep to fuck to eat together sorry le fuck le sex French girls a little bit arrogant?

**Speaker 2:** Yes. English. English. English. I look like your Like a bitch. Yes, I know. It's English

**Speaker 1:** sarcasm. English sarcasm. If we love you, we'll tell you you're a bitch. I'm a bitch. And to Americans they say, what is And I plan to be a bitch. Oh, really? You look like such a sweet girl when I met you. So quiet. Now, you're telling me you're a super bitch. And you're not even drinking alcohol. Amazing.

**Speaker 2:** I don't need that. I'm already crazy. You don't need it. Yeah. I want to dance.

**Speaker 1:** Let's dance baby. What's the night? Oh my god. Is this whiskey in here? Taxi? Taxi for one. Joking. Joking, Edward. Joking, Edward. That's the only She's just schizophrenic. Don't worry. We've let her from the hospital. I see. I see. She's come out of the hospital.

**Speaker 3:** I guess we need a bit more than just a taxi. Yeah.

**Speaker 1:** The school is the police. Oh.

**Speaker 2:** Oh. I like the police.

**Speaker 1:** Don't say that. That means you love men in uniform of No. With Not special. Thank you, lovely. Are you are you closing? Yes. We are. Yep. That's fine.

**Speaker 2:** It's like a

**Speaker 1:** No. I'm I'm good with the with the old school. Old school. Perfect. And I've I've I've rubbed the bank. Thank you. Let's go and dance. What's it? Granville Granville Street. Oh, Granville? Yeah.

**Speaker 2:** You know a place?

**Speaker 1:** Every place. It's Saturday. Every Irish bar, every bar, every pub. But am I looking okay? Yes, I think so. Don't laugh. You say Tom, yes, you are looking great. Oh, Tom, you're Amazing.

**Speaker 2:** I know. I know. Every

**Speaker 1:** day I look in the mirror and I say, God, why? Why did you make me so perfect? It's hard, you know, it's hard. Yes, I understand. But you understand the struggle. It's hard to be single and beautiful, but somebody has to be single and beautiful.