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# Episode 192 Battle Of The Sexes

**Speaker 0:** Hey. Hey. I think we say podcast number a 192. What the fuck did that phone just say? Hello, and welcome welcome to the podcast in Finnish. We are here in Finland, Finlandia, or as Bexta PUA likes to say, Finland, fun land, Finland, win land. And he's right. Especially during this time of the year around the May 1 when the Finns go crazy. They have an excuse around the May 1 to get drunk for three days in public. It's called vapu. You wear a sailor hat. And it's day game mixed with gutter game mixed with night game. And it's the one time of the year when introverted or I should say chronically introverted Scandinavians can talk to each other and get drunk and mate. So if you are in this part of the world, get yourself to Finland. Anyway, this episode is called battle of the sexes. Understanding the different sexual strategies of males and females, why they're so different, how it impacts so massively on your life, and most importantly, why you shouldn't get angry, but you should enjoy playing the game, the sport. This is your weekly pickup podcast. It's predominantly daygame, but the things I say apply to meeting girls at night online. If if you're going for the the dodgy stuff online or if you're meeting girls at work or in your social circle, you can still take a lot out of these podcasts, especially episodes like this meta episodes where we talk about big concepts. The podcast is usually weekly, but it's a little bit late because I've been in Russia and I was coming back after the madness of my last trip to Russia. I came on the train back to here, back to sunny Finland where definitely it is spring. It's above 15 degrees centigrade. Sunlight is streaming through the van window. Birds are chirping. You might be able to hear them. There is a rolling green park down to a shimmering lake. Can you picture that outside the van? And sprawling on the grass are students who are quote unquote studying for their exams. Now, don't let that put you off when a girl says she is studying, she's at university, she ain't studying. She is on Instagram, she is scrolling through Facebook, she is swiping on Tinder, especially at this time of the year. Girls are extra horny. It's the fertile season. The buds are blooming. Is that what you say? The buds bloom, but the trees are turning green just as the girls are getting really, really extra fertile. So no excuses if you're in the Northern Hemisphere and you were saying it's too cold and you had to be in the shopping center. Well, go and talk to girls on park benches, on the grass, strolling around, everybody's dazed and those winter boyfriends that she talked about in December and January and February have magically disappeared. So you can be a bit of fun in the spring. Before we go into today's topic, battle of the sexes, reproductive war. I've got to make some money because I've got to put diesel in the tank. I've got to keep drinking beer. So support me by buying a book. And today's book that I shall talk about relates to picking up girls, meeting girls, seducing girls in Russia and the former Soviet Union. When I open my email inbox, the dreaded morning task, it's often Groundhog Day questions from guys that have perhaps just found this channel. How do you meet Russian girls? How are Russian girls different? What city should you go to? What are the things to watch out for? Well, without sounding cocky, I wrote a book in 2017. It's on Kindle. You can buy the paperback from my website. It's called cold calling, how to seduce girls in Russia in the Former Soviet Union. I've been doing it since 2012, 2013, traveling to these countries. So I wrote a book with maps and guides and lay reports and warnings and what have you for Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, The Baltics, which is Latvia, Lithuania, Estonia, Czech Republic, Slovakia, Poland, and Moldova, I do believe. So the link for that is below. Help me out. Buy me a beer. Fill up the van. If you really wanna fill up the van, need to buy street hustle which is my a to zed hardback textbook. Okay. A meta concept today and this applies to you whether you're a day gamer, a night gamer, whether you, as I said, meet girls in a social circle through friends, doesn't really matter. You're a bloke. I presume most guys, most people listening to this podcast are guys. So you have your sexual strategy. I know some girls listen to this podcast. Hello, ladies. So you have your sexual strategy. Why is a cat not a dog? Or as Kipling said, east is east, west is west, and never the twain shall meet. I like the word twain. It should be used more often. But why not? Why the different sexual strategies? And more importantly, how does it impact on your massive life decisions? And as I said at the end, how not to get angry because some guys misinterpret this as a real battle. They get really mad that gills have tactics and tools as well. They don't wanna play the competition. Some storm off altogether. They think that you can quit this game of life. So how to understand female strategies, how to learn some male strategies, I. Learn game, and enjoy playing the game. The reproductive war is based on basic biological differences. If you've listened to all the podcast episodes, you'll have heard me talk about them before. Sperm is cheap. Eggs are expensive. Very basic biology which is covered in books like The Selfish Gene, Sperm Wars, The Red Queen, Evolution of Desire. These are core fundamental textbooks or rather easy to read paperback books that go into the basic differences between men and women. Why dogs are not cats as I've said before. So that explains why we have this conflict, this contradiction, why all those niggles and problems exist, why you have the rom coms and the romantic fiction and why break up hurt and why you get needy and why you fall in and out of love. It's not rocket science. People imply that somehow it is. But if you just understand the very basic differences in sexual strategies, it's all crystal clear. Yes. They can sometimes be win win temporarily. You can have a win lose and you can have a lose lose. So we shall go into all three. And most importantly, I want you to not be naive, not be idealistic. Idealistic. When a guy writes to me and says, I always leave women better than I found them or forget pickup, it's manipulative. I believe in self development for me and for her. It's like, you know, he wants a medal for participation. He says, I'm not doing pickup to get laid. I'm doing it to improve my voice. I'm doing it to improve my posture. Well, yes. I don't doubt that pickup has spin off effects. So it does change your posture and your voice and your fashion and your fitness, but never forget why you're in it. You're in it to smash girls, to meet younger hotter girls. Don't pretend you're not. If you're pretending it to yourself, it's gonna come across as weird to the girl. She knows why you're talking to her. So you own it and you've got to think what is your male sexual strategy and why is hers different and how can you use that as I said to your advantage. So enough waffle. What do men want biologically? Genetic survival, genetic replication. What do women want? Genetic survival, genetic replication. But the way we go about it is different because of that, core concept. Sperm is cheap for men. So we want unlimited sexual partners to spread our seed in fertile females and eggs expensive. So she wants high value DNA to fertilize that egg and she also wants needs provisions to raise that child. So differences in what she wants and what she needs. But ultimately, the the biological thing is the same. Genetic survival, genetic replication. Do you understand that? Good. If you said no, then go to my blog which contains this podcast episode and I'll put those books. I apologize if this sounds patronizing, but you'd be shocked at how many guys assume male and female sexuality is the same. It's simply not. There's a conflict of interests. Right? This is not self development. When a lion is chasing a gazelle, there is a winner and a loser. Okay. There can be lose lose that the gazelle runs off and is knackered. The lion doesn't get to eat the gazelle. He's knackered. But usually, if the lion eats the gazelle, he wins. If the gazelle manages to survive, she wins. But we're going for the win. And when you play a sport, when you play chess, there's usually a winner and a loser. Okay. I know there can be some technical draws, but that's not why you get into the Olympics. That's not why you're in an NBA, NFL team. You want to win. No draw. So when I go out, I'm looking for the win. I'm looking to seduce a girl. Can it be win win? Well, yes. But not for long, not over the long term. So what do I mean by win win? Win win seduction is secret society seduction. So I want the casual sex. I don't want a relationship. I don't wanna give her commitment. So which side of her sexual strategy am I playing into? The strong DNA or the provider? Drumroll please. It's the strong DNA. It's the lover. Read last year's book below the belt. Why daygamers need to be lovers because I don't wanna be her provider boyfriend. So if she's just out for that, maybe she has a boyfriend. Listen to the last or rather watch the last episode of Black Sheep Bandit when I seduce a girl from Hong Kong who has a boyfriend and she's just looking for a bit of fun with me as the lover for twenty four, forty eight hours technically win win. Why could that not be sustained? Well, girls even wanna turn their lovers into providers. So eventually, if you're smashing a girl for fun, she'll eventually want more from you. More as in more commitment. She'll want you to stick around. She'll want you to provide in some form. What does that mean? Being a boyfriend, being her fiance, being her husband. She wants to lock you down. This is subconscious. She's she's not thinking about this just like you're not thinking about glancing at those boobies or ass. It just happens. And you can't fault her for having her sexual strategy just as she shouldn't shame you for having yours. Anyway, that was temporal win win. What about win lose? Well, this is common in pickup. To remind you, the male wants pump and dump spreading his seed. The female wants commitment. So the guy pretends to get the sex. He pretends that he's gonna be her boyfriend. This is what I call hustle number one, the bait and switch where you seduce the girl, you have sex with her, you pretend you're the boyfriend, then you do a runner. So she had you down as a possible provider, as a guy offering commitment and then you didn't. So you got the sex, you won, you killed the gazelle, but it really wasn't what was presented at the beginning. So can you seduce girls like that? Yes. Has every pickup artist done that? Yes. You tend to do it when you're starting out because you're used to meeting girls in boyfriend mode. So if you read my first book, daygame, there's a lot of that where I was still mister nice guy pretending to be the boyfriend. I'd get the lay then I'd do a runner and the girl would be pissed off. So that's 's win lose. We'll talk about how a girl girl can do it to a guy further on in the podcast. But try to make them win win, which is hustle number two. What about lose lose? Well, yes, it can happen. You waste the girl's time but you don't get laid. She's wasting your time but you don't have the sex. Both of you get pissed off. She didn't get the commitment. You didn't get the sex. It was complete waste of time. You could say that's a lose lose scenario. So the gazelle ran away knackered. The lion ran away knackered. Nobody got anything. And there's dead ends all the time in seduction and you give the royal flush and you feel then she feels bad because well she didn't get laid or she didn't get commitment. So you both walk away from the table. You could say technically worse off worse off for time. Yeah. So those are the different sexual strategies. We're focusing on win win when we can but there is always a conflict of interests. And as I said, even if you're doing the harem thing like I'm doing in Russia, you can get casual sex for a while. One month, three months, six months. And then even those girls who are just casual partners, they'll want to see you more often. They'll want to sleep over. Text you more. They will require more commitment. They'll go off with the guy who's offering more commitment. So that's what I mean by temporal. What is a male's bartering tool? If for the girl it's sex, she's dangling the sex, well for a male, it's attention. So really important you understand that. Every time you're giving a girl attention by spending lots of time with her, speaking to her on the phone, texting her lots, you're giving her what she wants, which is lots of attention without perhaps having sex. That's the definition of girls putting a guy in the friend zone. She gets loads and loads of commitment and attention. You are her emotional tampon as they used to say in the pickup community without you getting laid. So you're the sucker, you're the mark. The opposite to that is you could say if a girl gives you quick sex but you don't give her any of the promised attention and affection, she's the mark. She's the sucker. What about getting married? Cause guys will say, well, they're lonely. They don't wanna do pickup forever. They believe in some kind of end game and they say, I'm gonna find a quality girl and I'm gonna get married. Well, is the marriage win win? Is it win lose or is it lose lose? Idealistically, you'd like to say it's win win but really, it's a win for the girl. It's kind of win lose or if it ends in an explosion and a divorce, it's lose lose. But generally, the girl does better. And if you're marrying a girl, you've compromised your sexual strategy. You could somehow say you're the mark because you've given up your unlimited sexual freedom. She's got a high value guy. She might have even got you as a lover and she's locked you down. She gets babies. Well, what are babies? What are children? Both of you have a genetic win. But once again, the male is losing his freedom. He's having to provide. If you get divorced, you know that all the western laws are weighted in favor of the girls. So she still kind of wins. Now I understand understand why why men men get get extremely extremely angry. Angry, They they run run for for the the hills, hills. The whole MGTOW thing. You can't escape the game though. You can't escape this game of life. You can't be at the poker table when everyone else is playing poker and you can't be there with your arms folded in a huff and say that you're not playing. Well, you're forced to sit at that table and watch everybody else playing. You could pretend that you're not interested in poker and money, but you'd be lying to yourself. Yourself. That's what I mean by guys misunderstanding battle of the sexes. They take it personally. They say, fuck you. Because they realize girls are playing a game. They say they don't want anything to do with females, that they don't need female energy in their life and they resort to a male space. They're only gonna do male things and they don't need women. Well, I think deep down they know that we need female energy just like females need male energy. It's a beautiful thing. I am surrounded by female energy. Does that mean I've committed to one female? No. In future episodes of the black sheep panda, I shall talk about that. How you can be single, how you can be a bachelor, but how you can be flooded with female affection and oxytocin. You can kind of have your cake and eat it. If you understand these sexual strategies and how to balance what you want with what she wants. And to just understand that it's temporal. Nothing wrong with it being temporal. It's only when you say you want it for life with one girl. That's your idealism coming up against biological truths that the hits the fan. It's probably lose lose, you're pissed off, she's pissed off. And then I can see why guys get pissed off with every girl. And they fold their arms as I said at the poker table like a little toddler and say, I'm not playing whilst everybody else is having fun in the casino. So bear that in mind. Also for those guys that say, I leave her better than I found her and you know, we shouldn't be doing pickup because it's manipulative. Well, with the female sexual strategy of wanting alpha DNA and wanting beta provisioning, of course, they have a great proficiency in strategies and tactics themselves. To pretend that girls don't have game, girls don't use tools and techniques, that's just naive. Just take a step back and look at females using makeup, females lying about their age, females having plastic surgery, females having push up bras, females being excellent as I can see outside at photography, at using Instagram filters and understanding light to get that perfect Instagram picture to get the likes and the comments and the the top DNA. Look at how girls are so good at friend zoning guys. How girls are masters of getting male attention for free, companionship for free, as I said, the the male emotional tampon without giving sex to the guys who are offering that free attention and companionship. Yeah. Look at how some girls are masters of extracting money from men without giving them sex or perhaps giving them sex. The whole gold digger thing. Look at how women are masters of the whole gotcha. Pregnancy, pregnancy scares, false pregnancies, all that juicy manipulative stuff. Females of the are the masters of this. Look at how females cheat. As I said, watch the third episode of series two of the black sheep bandit where you see me seducing a girl who has a boyfriend and how the next day she is rationalizing to herself why it wasn't cheating and amazing. Now this is where guys get very very cross. They moan about women having strategies. They moan about women wanting to lock guys down but also get high value DNA. They moan about women upgrading. They don't see that this is part of the game. The opposite team has strategies. They'd be mad not to. The opposite sports team is training. They want to beat you. What does that do or what should it do? It should raise your game. It should make you want to beat them by improving your tools and tactic tactics and techniques. Yeah. You should you should love the fact that women want to upgrade. That girl on the ferry from Hong Kong, she upgraded to me. Can you believe it? So who benefited, I did. Where was the loss? Okay. It was with her boyfriend. But be the guy girls cheat with, not on. I say in below the belt. Use this fact that women upgrade. Don't forget that you upgrade as well. You upgrade from a six to a seven, a seven to an eight, a 29 year old to a 24 year old, then you upgrade to an 18 year old. Don't be shocked that women have a sexual strategy. And by learning all this stuff, by zooming out, you can decide, do you wanna be the mark or do you wanna be the hustler? Do you wanna play or do you wanna get played? Do you see why this is vital? This is not just about daygame or that one particular girl. This is about your next relationship, about your next four years, about your next decade, about your next marriage, about those kids. If you don't understand the very basics of the battle of the sexes, you are the mark. You will be screwed. And your idealism about leaving her better than you found her or just wanting to have a participation medal is gonna make you extremely vulnerable. And there are not just regular girls out there with this inherent knowledge of their own sexual strategy. Think about pro female hustlers. And in a country like Russia, Ukraine, Moldova, if you go in there mister naive, mister nice guy, mister leave them better than they found them, you are gonna get hustled hard. Not just by those bar promo girls who are gonna pull you into a bar and then it's a dodgy strip club and then the bill comes and it's €200 and then those big fucking Russian dudes appear. Okay. That's gonna get you in trouble. Sugar babies are gonna get you in trouble. Strippers are gonna get you in trouble. You're gonna get in yourself into all sorts of dodgy situations. And if you're going to Asia as a naive guy, you're gonna end up with the gotcha pregnancies with dodgy marriages. You're gonna get screwed over. And then you're gonna be surprised why you're feeling pissed off and you're angry because you didn't learn the rules of the game. It's no point in moaning that you lost that game of chess when you went in there against a competitor who was simply way better than you because they've been studying the game of chess, practicing, they know the rules inside out, and you went in just thinking it was a, a harmonious, friendly, let's all hold hands and sing Kumbaya. It's a game. It's a competition. That's why this is called the game. Is my rant having an impact on you? I hope it is. Because I don't want the wool to be pulled over your eyes. I don't want you to be naive. And most importantly, you can learn to enjoy the game. Do I love the fact that women upgrade? Yes. Do I love the fact that women wear push up bras and get plastic surgery and look hot on Instagram? Yes. Do I love the fact quite cynically that other guys are marks, that other guys are suckers, that she does cheat on her boyfriend, that she does friend zone all those other guys, that she makes other guys pay for it, that you can be the lover and she has all those chumpy providers. Is that good for me? Is that good for you as a pickup artist? Yes. So really, we don't wanna tell the secret rules of the game to many guys, do we? Because we want them cynically, I know, to be in the dark. But this podcast is putting it out there. You can't have excuses now for not learning male strategies. That's called pickup artistry and it's all for free on the internet, on YouTube. When I started this, there was very little out there especially for meeting girls during the day and the meta strategies of what's going on. But now it's all out there for free. So if you're not wising up to the games that girls play and the game that you should be playing, then you're a sucker. You're mark. And if this podcast doesn't kick you up the ass, then life will. The next girlfriend who you call manipulative, she's not manipulative. She's just playing by the female rules. And I always say, look, if you were a hot female, you too would seek out high value DNA from high value males. You would seek out provisioning for millionaires and billionaires. You would use your youth and your beauty. If you weren't, fucking hell, you'd be terrible at this game of life. So just put yourself in a female shoes. I don't mean become transgender. I mean, see it from her perspective. And if you're a female listening to this, then understand the male strategy. Sperm is cheap. Eggs are expensive. East is east. West is west. Never the two shall meet. Can you for a time then reconcile these differences? Maybe. If you're having that kid together, if you're together for a few years raising that kid. But after that, her sexual strategy shall carry on. Your sexual strategy shall carry on. We shall finish with reminding you how you can love the game. Just like two boxers who have respect for each other, a deep love for each other, but they still smash the shit out of each other. That's a respect for competition. That's embracing the opponent knowing that iron sharpens iron as they say. It's the wolf that makes the rabbit strong. It's the rabbit that makes the wolf strong. That's at the heart of evolution. Yeah? Play better opponents. So rather than doing grotty tinder lays or going to Asia, seek to sharpen your game by going for hotter girls. Girls are your mirror. They will teach you a fuck load. Alright? All those tests, all those failed dates, all those blowouts will teach you way more than a couple of tinder lays in Bangkok. So go for younger girls, go for hotter girls. Toughen up your game. It's like in sport playing a much better competitor than you. It will immediately raise your game. It's why I love Russian girls daygaming seducing in Russia as I say in cold calling. They demand so much from you. You have to have a strong frame. And the time I've spent in Moscow over the years has sharpened my game to the point where when you then go to another country, it's like playing game on easy mode when the girls are not so polarizing and demanding. I would encourage you. And if you spent time in Ukraine or Moldova or some shabby Balkan countries when girls are such good pro or semi pro or just hardwired hustlers themselves, you are on your guard. You understand all these, scams and schemes, and you feel sorry for the chumps that are googling, Russian brides meeting their sweet, innocent, traditional Ukrainian girl, you just shake your head. And I'm not judging Romanian, Bulgarian girls for their financial hassles online. Once again, if you had that youth and beauty and you're in their situation and there were chumps offering you money flying you to America, Dubai, you would do it too. But anyway, I shall leave it there. Embrace the game. Embrace competition. Understand her strategies. Learn your own, which is learning game. Go back to podcast episode number one and listen to the last a 191 podcasts or to help me put diesel in the tank, buy street hustle, my pickup textbook a to z of daygame texting, dating and relationships and have all those male strategies in one place. If you're a female listening and you want to know what the opposition is doing, you want to know what men are using against you then buy the book, enjoy it and as I said learn what the other side is doing okay with that I should go and find some free wifi to upload this podcast it's late enough already that was episode a 192 I'll speak to you next week from The UK I do believe goodbye