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# Episode 20 Solo Daygame

**Speaker 0:** Okay. Thank you very much. Have a good day. Be good. Bye. Tom Torero, podcast number 20, I think it is. From here, Warsaw in Poland, Cest, we say once more I'm here for a month this time. It's the longest residential training program I've ever done. A month with a guy. So he's hitting daygame hard obviously and I'm hitting daygame hard. If this sounds breathy, if it's podcast, it's because I'm rushing back from my breakfast to pick him up so we can hit the streets. Yeah. It's not as beautiful as Krakow or Prague or even Saint Petersburg, and the girls are not of Ukrainian or Russian standard, but it is good. There's enough to shoot at, and they're cute and they're his type. It's all going well. First of all, some housekeeping and announcements. So if you don't like being told what I'm up to or what products or books I'm producing, then just skip ahead to the second half of the podcast when I'll be talking about today's main topic which is solo day game, mastering solo day game. But first of all, some exciting announcements. I'm gonna run across this road to catch the green light. They're very strict here. They get you for jaywalking. I've already been stopped by the police for jaywalking. It's none of this London meandering at will. Let me run across the next one. Alright. Yesterday, you might have seen on my YouTube channel, this YouTube channel, with Nick Krauser, I launched a beginner daygame instructional video for free around twenty five minutes, breaking down our London daygame model, our version of the seduction pathway. I'm not just talking about it. We show you infield clips from our time in Prague to illustrate each point. So if you're still a dabbler behind the keyboard, you're still a voyeur, then watch that and it will give you everything you need really to hit the streets for the next year or two and get the basics sorted, get the fundamental sorted, get the framework sorted. So abandon this idea of freewheeling, genius improv, being yourself, being natural from the beginning, that's ridiculous. Alright? Get some sort of skill set down and then you can abandon it and enjoy it. Going along with that video is the upsell bit. It's the £10 PDF where we break down our London daygame model in a lot more detail. So there's a link below that video, which takes you to the book of the same name written by Nick and myself called beginner digging. We're very proud of it. We've worked on it for about a year trying to simplify it and strip away all the unnecessary bits. So it's not in a game, it's not the wise, it's not mental masturbation, it's just very practical. So it's giving you the model, it's giving you drills, it's giving you timetables, it's giving you checklists, it's giving you photos, it's breaking it down into the most simple form we can. We couldn't go any further really without without making it ridiculous. So either watch the video for free or watch the video and buy the book for £10. I can assure you, you don't really need much more if you're a beginner or a lower intermediate. That will get you going. So you can shut your laptop, you can think no more about should you go and do daygame, shouldn't you do do daygame, how does daygame work, etcetera, etcetera. You can just hit the streets and that's why we made it. Okay. Second announcement is that as I'm recording this podcast on my phone, true flow mad style, right now back in the apartment, I am uploading flow mad. At least the second half of Flowmat, which is my new two and a half hour digital video product. That's quite hard to say. Talking about exactly what I'm doing now, which is working in another country, working from my laptop or using a skill set that's my flow I. Daygame to generate money too. Minimal living, not about getting rich quick or how to become tricky internet marketer with lots of clever upsells and squeeze pages and sales pages. No. This is just about how I did it because I'm not an internet marketer. I'm not someone who knows a lot about SEO or advertising or clickbait or spammy email lists and all that kind of stuff. I'm not interested in it. I'm interested in traveling and daygame as a flow and skiing as a flow and climbing as a flow, etcetera. And I'm also not interested in making lots of money. This is not a get rich quick program because for my lifestyle, I need less money than when I was a primary school teacher in London. That always shocks guys that to do all the things you see me do on YouTube and to do all the traveling you see me do, it costs less than when I was living full time in London with a nine to five job paying my bills. So let me get my breath back. I'm walking at a pace. I'm not just a fat lazy bastard, honestly. Yes. I'm gonna tell you a little bit about what's in the program. Two and a half hours. Two hours in the studio, quote unquote home studio that was built for free. So making a digital video product I talk about as well. And half an hour, the last half an hour of the program is when I hit the road, I go to Prague and I take my GoPro along with me on a flow mad expedition and I go through flights and bagpacking and accommodation, daygame routes. I tell you all about good daygame in Prague and places to game, places to date, places to bounce, places to seduce, pitfalls, things to watch out for, etcetera, etcetera. So you see everything that I spoke about in the studio in action. Alright? So two and a half hours in total. I talk about the concept of flow. So not in a cheesy Tony Robbins life coaching kind of find your passion, Feel your element, man. No. In a concrete sense of what do you like to do. Alright. When you're not working, what is it that you do? Since you were a little kid, what is it that you dabble in? If you were on an island for the rest of your life and you could only do one thing, what is the thing you do? Can you make money from it? That's another question. Okay. Or do you need to do this time on time off where you work for a little bit at a base and then you bugger off like me and you do flow mad expeditions? Is it half and half like me where I generate money from live teaching, live coaching or Skype coaching, but that's still me doing work physically? And then half of it, passive. And remember, you can only have passive income after you've done a bit of active setup. So for me that was writing my books, daygame to area travels, how to flirt with girls, and now beginner daygame, plus making online digital video products. So what have I got? Badass Buddha, Conversation Ninja, and now this one, Flowmat. So that's how passive income works for me. So I'll explain how I did it. The steps how to publish a book, the steps how to make a video product, the steps how to set up a website, get a brand, use content marketing rather than this very convoluted sneaky clicks and bait and squeeze pages and sales pages and upsells and all that internet marketing that I don't know about. This is just the actionable stuff that I did. So content marketing as in using largely things like YouTube where you give give give give to receive. As my grandmother used to say, you gotta give and receive. So content marketing is fantastic because it's free, it's creative, it's a platform, and YouTube ticks all these boxes where you can give give away a lot of content whether that's a podcast or a vlog or you might have a blog and do articles, you might give free talks etcetera etcetera. You build up a fan base, you identify your niche niche and those people will buy. And as I say in flow mad, you don't need to conquer the whole internet. You don't need everybody in internet to like you or buy your things. Forgive this wind. Also, it's very flat and it funnels down the road bit like New York City. Let's get out of the wind. Hang on. Yeah. So identifying the niche, selling to that niche, not trying to conquer the internet and make millions because it's not the money that you're after. Alright? It's actually the time. You're freeing up time. Time is the vital commodity because you don't know how long or short your life is gonna be. So this is about licking the lid of life, living life intensely, grabbing life by the horns, living life on the edge. Alright? Having no regrets. As cheesy as all this sounds, you know, carpe diem, seize the day. It really is true. Because when you're on your deathbed, you don't wanna look back and think, I wish I dated those girls. I wish I'd been to that country. I wish I'd spent more time doing this. I'm sure there's not many people that say they wish they had spent more time commuting to work and sitting in an office doing a job they don't like. Now, I'm not dissing work. This is another thing. This is not just a four hour work week remake because I believe that doing nothing is very dangerous. So having lots of money and lying on a beach forever is very dangerous. It's like men who retire, play golf, have a heart attack, and die. Yeah? Men need projects. Men need to focus. Men need to flow. Yes. In particular, it's men because women often have bigger social circles. They're they're much more well connected. Men were quite isolated introverted social beings who need to focus on tasks in hand. So this is not about working four hours a week. This is probably working forty hours a week more like. Yeah. Forty hours as in you're running your own business, but it doesn't feel like work. Like right now, I'm walking around just come out of Starbucks talking to my phone. I guess you could define this as work because I'm making a podcast which is part of my content marketing, but I don't see it as content marketing. I don't think of myself as a marketer. I don't think of what I'm about to do today as work. I'll be walking around Warsaw for about four or five hours today, opening girls, demoing. I'll do one. The student will do one. I'll do one. The student will do one. We'll debrief. We'll go over text messaging, etcetera, etcetera. That's not work. I can't kid myself that that's work because I love it and I get to talk to girls. The student gets to talk to girls. The student got laid yesterday, so that's fantastic, you know. Can't think of a better job. So when your passion is your job, it no longer can be defined as a job, and you're willing to work so many hours. I've been tinkering with flow mad for months. Like I said, Nick and I's new book, been working on it for months. I've got this huge project that I'm about to start fully once I've got flow mad out of the way. Flow mad's been keeping me busy for about half a year, three quarters of a year. Things like vlogging, I just love it. I love filmmaking. I love narrative, storytelling, documentaries. So that's really the secret. We're not talking about giving up everything and getting rich. And there's many flaws in the four hour work week, the Tim Ferriss model, because it's quite dated now, so I talk about those as well in the product. Let me pull out my list and see if I've missed anything. Yeah. Okay. Let's talk about what's in the product. So obviously, I go through flow. Obviously, I explain what a digital nomad is without pretending to be some kind of Internet entrepreneur. I explain how I use my office as a laptop and how I use a time on time off rooted model so you can travel without quitting your job. This is not just about quitting your job. I explain the passive income as I said, so the book and the video products. You might think about podcasts and blogs. I go through my brand and how I leverage technology using this content marketing. And then a large part of Flow Mat is explaining me daygaming around the world. Alright. The best cities, the secret spots, what works, what doesn't work, and why, what a good daygame city needs. And now, I am an authority on this. I'm not an internet marketer, but I certainly am a global daygamer. I've probably daygamed in the most countries in the world from any daygamer alive today. I've been to over 40 countries to do daygame or at least pass through some of those countries and do daygame as well, and I've scribbled them down because I needed this for the product. I've daygamed in The UK, The USA, Canada, Australia, Dubai, Sweden, Finland, Norway, Netherlands, Germany, Spain, Portugal, Italy, Morocco, Egypt, Latvia, Lithuania, Estonia, Russia, Belarus, Ukraine, Serbia, Croatia, Bulgaria, Switzerland, France, Czech Republic, Poland, Slovakia, Hungary, Romania, Turkey, Austria, Greece, Ireland, China, Malaysia, Denmark, Vatican City, yeah, I'm including that, and Albania. And soon, I'm gonna add another four countries to that list. And not just 40 countries, but well over now 50 cities. Alright? So I can say hand on heart, I'm a global daygamer. I understand street and cafe and mall daygame around the world, and how dating works, and how dating difference differs between different cultures and different continents, etcetera. So I talk a lot about that and I talk about my minimal living to do it. So packing the bag and how I live, so how I fly, where I stay, how to get visas in particular, the Russian visa or the Belarusian visa that lots of guys ask me about. Ukraine, you don't need a visa. Poland, don't need a visa if you are from Britain. So I go through that. I talk about how to structure a day game mission abroad. So short game versus long game, how to do the text, how to do the whatsapping, how to do the long game on social media, how to go for same day lays. I go through having a daily routine, so not just doing day game but structuring your day like I do. Fitness, work in the morning, something cultural, daygame, getting out of the city, time for friends and family, downtime, dating time. I go through doing it solo, which I'm going to come on to in a second for this podcast or doing it with wings, traveling with wings. I go through the cost, the million dollar question. Guys always say rather cheekily, how much do you spend exactly? Tell me tell me how much you spent exactly last year, which in Britain is a is like saying to a girl, how old are you? It's a rather bizarre social faux pas, but I do say exactly how much I spend a day, a week, a month, a year on my lifestyle, on eating, on flights, on accommodation, how much I need to be a day game flow matter. So that's given away. I talk about travel dangers or at least perceived travel dangers, scams, tips for living abroad, and things to be wary of because I've tried this model now for at least two and a half years coming up to three years. So I'm aware of the advantages and disadvantages and I give them away. So that's it, the end of the flow mat plug. There's not gonna be a big cheesy launch with a video you can't click off or a spammy long squeeze page sales page with bonuses and weird membership areas and counting down clocks and then if you don't buy you get spammed with another 50 emails. No. I'll release it in the next day or two. There'll be a launch video just saying it's up and a link And if you wanna buy it, great. If you don't wanna buy it, it doesn't matter. I still appreciate your support. Now if you're thinking how does this differ from Torero Travels or the bit at the end of Badass Buddha when I talk about escaping the matrix, well, is just in a lot more detail. Remember, I wrote Torero Travels quite a while back now, and there's just a chapter or two on a summary of these points. But in the program, I really go deep into them, and I correct myself sometimes on what I've learned in the last year, two years. In Badass Buddha, it's just simply the last module, and I didn't have time on that day to go into the whole flow mad thing. That's what kicked me into making flow mad. I ran out of time in that Badass Buddha seminar. It was epic. It was six hours of me talking. I was knackered. The audience was knackered. The cameraman was knackered. So I thought, right. We'll just finish on those slides, escaping the matrix, and I'll come back to the concept. So this is it. Dive in if you wish. Alright. The second half of the podcast on an actual topic, which I do touch upon in flow mad, and that is should you daygame solo on your own, or should you daygame with a wing? Now this can apply to the city you live in, the town you live in, or when you travel. Okay? It's a valid question that students always ask. They're usually saying I can't find a wing, or I feel weird when I'm doing it on my own because I leave my house and these voices in my head, which we call weasels, start talking to me like I'm not in the mood, she looks bitchy, she's gonna reject me, people are watching, I need a coffee, I'm wearing the wrong thing, etcetera, etcetera. I've got a video on that called excuses excuses to hear all the weasels that come into your head. And the problem is when you do it on your own, these voices talk to you much quicker and much louder. There's nothing to suppress them. Yeah? So a good trick for this right off the bat is to leave your house and say to yourself, first one's the worst one, to get it out the way as quickly as you can. You need to approach the first girl in under two minutes really from shutting your door or getting off the bus, getting off the train, getting off the metro, and it doesn't need to be your future wife. I always nag students about this. She's not hot enough, man. I don't date Asians. So we just find any girl that's vaguely hot. Well, sometimes I just do it on an old lady. Yeah? A middle aged, frumpy, or an elderly lady. Leave your house, shut your door, go up to her, say, hey, I just gotta say, you look beautiful. Have a great day. Focus on the twinkling eyes. Focus on the smirk, not the smile. Focus on your voice. And the first one's always gonna be sleepy. I know for my first one, never really smile. The vibe's not there. I'm a bit grumpy, a bit serious, a bit heavy, a bit logical. So get the first one out the way, and then for me, after two or three, I'm good to go. For you, it might take five. Remember, in any day game session, you should be going and doing a minimum of 10 girls. No excuses. Alright? But she's not hot enough, man. No. Go and do 10 girls. If there's something about her you like and that if she was on your bed naked, you'd sleep with her, go and do it. That's the biggest weasel probably guys saying, I'm gonna wait for a hotter one. If you're doing solo daygame, you can't use that excuse. Alright? If you're in a small city, you can't use that excuse. It's gonna take you five at least to get that social lubrication going. Yeah. You might hit gold on the first one, you might be lucky, she might be a yes girl, but for the skill and the vibe to kick in, it's gonna take around five. That's why we say do 10 in about two hours. Walking around, not opening, that's a big enemy. Alright? You get tired, your vibe is going down. If you haven't spoken to any girls after let's say ten, fifteen minutes, I would give up the session actually. I'd go home, call it off. Because how you are in your first ten minutes is gonna dictate how the session goes. That's a very good truism. So just be really careful. With a wing, of course, it's nice because it's high energy, you're bantering, you're having fun, you're talking about game, pretending that is game, you're deconstructing, you're pretending you haven't seen girls. It can stop you approaching. That's why I don't like wings. Wings are fine for beginners, think, in that you spur each other on, you kick each other's asses, you get your thousand sets of pain out of the way. But after that, I really believe solo daygame is correct. Daygame is a solo sport. You need to have that hunter horny mindset where you get in the zone, you get in flow. Alright? Like like a painter, like an artist, like somebody doing an extreme sport, like a mountaineer. Sure, it's good to have an expedition and camps and things, but alpinism is the purest form of mountaineering and that you often do it alone, however dangerous that sounds, and you do it fast. It's pure. You don't even need oxygen. Yes. So think of somebody climbing Everest without massive amounts of support, without massive camps and slow and paced measured technical support. He just goes there and with pure skill, pure focus, he gets the job done. That for me is day game. Alright? All the best sets I've ever done, all the best girlfriends I've ever got from her, all the best girls I've ever laid have been from when I was solo. A wing can actually sneakily make your day game worse. Some wings tap your energy, they kind of use you, they steal your vibe to enhance their vibe, they distract you, they take girls off you, so if they've got better eyesight they might pinch a girl. They might ruin your vibe, and that he knows he's doing well, he might go off on an instant date, and then you kind of crash a little bit. Or just the fact he might do it unintentionally that he's doing well, that might lower your vibe. If you're doing well, that might lower his vibe. Competition can turn sour. It can very easily become jealousy. It can distract you, like I said, from opening because you can just walk around talking. Lots of guys in London use daygame as a social, thing, which is alright. Meeting other guys a bit like in fight club, but it's fight club without the fighting. They just go and have coffees, chat about game. That's a bit like the woman's institute. Yeah? Women's institute where they just meet up, eat cake, do some knitting and gossip. This is a sport. Alright? Daygame is the talking to girls bit. It's not the internet bit. It's not the chatting bit. It's not the writing posts. It's not even recording a podcast like this. This isn't daygame that I'm doing right now. Daygame is gonna start, that's why I'm talking quickly, in twenty minutes when you actually are face to face with a girl. And when you're there when you're there, talking to that single girl, and that's when daygame works the best because of the bubble effect, because of the sexual vibe, because of the man woman polarity, you're on your own. Alright? A two set, sure, it's fun, it's good in the night, looks good on YouTube, but it's too jokey. It's too social. We wanna be sexual. We don't wanna be social, and that's when you're on your own. Alright? When you're on the date, you're gonna be on your own. When you're in the bedroom with her, you're gonna be on your own. Hopefully, when you're texting, you've learned to do it on your own. So you're not over reliant, you are that man who can stand alone, who can travel alone, he can pack his bag alone, he can do his washing alone. It makes you a man daygame puts hairs on your chest. So don't become over reliant on travel buddies or other people to book things for you. Yeah. Sounds like I'm I'm nagging you now and I am because this is the transition that we don't have in the West between boyhood and manhood. I remember the first trip I ever did on a budget airline. This is in my book daygame. When I was at uni, I was a weedy little boy and budget airlines had just come in. EasyJet had just started flying London Luton, I think it was to Athens and I booked a flight. And as I walked into the airport, I shat myself. Alright. Not literally, but I felt that panic attack coming on. First time I had been away from a holiday without friends or family. I was doing it on my own, had the backpack on. I was about 20 years old, maybe 19, going off to the Greek Islands. No idea where I was going. No map. No accommodation booked. It was the start of budget airline, so it was probably around $20.30 quid the flight. And it was nervous, and that's just the same feeling you get when you leave your house pretty much every day and you're about to do day game alone. The other truism, that never goes away. That weird feeling of, oh, Do I have to? That apathy, that feeling that this isn't quite normal. You're correct. This isn't normal. What we're doing isn't normal. You're standing outside of society. And I've been doing daygame now for five, six years, and my first one's always that funny kind of small queasy feeling. It's not approach anxiety. Now it's kind of apathy, laziness. It's anything I can think of other than doing daygames. Oh, I need to do this piece of work. Oh, I need to do this podcast. Oh, I need to go and have a coffee. No. You have to breathe in. Go and do the first one. First one's the worst one and then I get into a flow and you can't even stop me. I'm loving it. So after I've done my 10, I usually stay out and do more. The other day when we were with the student, we did our allocated session and then we were in good form. So we just stayed out carried on approaching. So there you go. Rant over. Let me check how long we've been going. Yeah. That's enough for today's podcast I think because I'm knackered. I've got to go home. This is not an excuse. Gotta brush my teeth, down some water, and then we're hitting the streets. So there you go. Today's podcast was about beginner daygame, which is a free video and a 10 pound PDF. Flow mad, which is either out today or tomorrow. There'll be a small launch video on this channel, Torero TV, and it's about doing daygame on your own. Cutting the excuses, cutting off bad wings, standing tall on your own, getting out there and going for what you want. Speak to you soon. All the best. Ta da.