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# Episode 71 Endgame

**Speaker 0:** Mister Torero back with podcast 71 on endgame, sitting here in Europe after those Canadian shenanigans with my wing and fellow coach Craig Cassidy. And speaking of mister Cassidy, we shall kick off the podcast with a bit of sales with a bit of an upsell. It's for the outlaw street hustle euro tour. So this is my last infield coaching of the year. I'm sold out for one on one coaching, but these will be one day standalone infield training sessions teaching you the London daygame model all around Europe. And the plan is Craig and I are gonna ride motorbikes like sons of anarchy or Butch Cassidy and the Sundance kid just you know iron versions of their horses we're gonna be riding motorbikes through five classic European daygame destinations and in each city we'll teach one of these one day 12PM to 5PM in field sessions so we kick off in Cologne on the October 15 in Germany then down to Bavaria Munich on the October 17 across to Austria Vienna on the October 19 Czech Republic Prague on the October 21, finishing in Poland, Krakow on the October 23. Now, I've tried and tested all of those cities. I've daygamed in them myself. I've taught boot camps in them before. There are hot girls. There's good beer. A cheap cost of living certainly in Cracow and Prague. So come on down. Maybe you don't even live in one of those cities but you'd like to experience it. It's a one day session. Like I said 12PM to 5PM a 100% infield Craig and I teaching two to one instructor ratio wireless microphones not just the classic street stuff but we'll be teaching you in parks and coffee shops and stores and malls wherever we can find hot girls. So if that sounds like your cup of tea, send me an email, tom@tomterrero.com. We've already sold places in, all of those cities for this tour, but there are places remaining. So first come first served. There you go. Enough of the sales speak. Let's dive into today's podcast topic, which is an important one. Eye on the prize. It is end game. The final stages of pickup. Now, end game, the term if you're a chess nerd, you'll know that that just means the final stage of the game when there are a few pieces remaining. Okay? It usually comes down to the king and the queen. And in game, we're obviously thinking about her in your bedroom or her in isolation where sexy times are about to happen. Because this might sound obvious, this might sound, rather retarded but let me remind you gentlemen that the goal of pickup, the goal of PUA, the goal of game, the goal of daygame, the goal of night game is sex. And guys go, what? I thought it was fashion and grooming and health and meditation and mindfulness and posture and yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Everything, all that stuff is additional. It's a side effect. It's ancillary you'd say yeah, but the goal is sex and I've always said this not to wrap up pickup in too much self development because guys disappear up their own ass. They use self development as avoidance to thinking about encay, what they're really in it for. Sure. Once you start having lots of sex off cold approaching with beautiful younger girls, your life does transform in many other ways. I'm always saying, you know, game is the Trojan horse into yourself. You're really seducing yourself. Okay. That all sounds woolly and great. It's true. But the reason I got into game, the reason I still game and I suspect the reason you googled pickup in the beginning or maybe read the game or you took some training or you go out there onto the streets is to have sex with younger, hotter girls. That's our biology. That's the biological meaning of life. It's a massive motivation and an inspiration for me and we shouldn't hide it. I say don't hide your dick and don't hide why you're doing pickup. You can drift into what's called becoming purple pill which is not the kind of beta blue pill stuff but the purple pill is trying to water down like I've said many times before what pickup really is which is sticking your p into her v as, the old saying goes. So you might know that I'm not really a fan of this outcome independence. Many coaches, pickup coaches, daygame coaches, nightgame coaches say, just be independent man. Let your ego go. Just be in the moment, feel it and breathe. Align your chakras and all will be well. Yep. I understand why they teach that stuff. Once again, it's used by many as an avoidance to going out there and taking action and cold approaching. I understand that sure it's good to be in the moment. Sure it's good to have that light playful vibe. The Buddha I say as opposed to the badass. Yep. But if you're a beginner, even an intermediate, you don't want to be focusing on meditation and the power of now and being in the moment. You want to focus on what you're in this for. And like I said, the goal of pickup is sex. So eye on the prize. Your goal is sex. And then from that backwards engineer how to get there. So already if you follow my structure, if you know the London daygame model, if you've read street hustle, if you know my dating model or my text model, what I do on the street or an instant date, you know my steps, you know the processes. But all of those steps, processes, the Torero Toolkit, that is to get you to sex. Okay? And here's where a night gamer you could say has an advantage over a day gamer because a night gamer, if you're going out and just looking for same night lays, that's going to encourage you to be like a tiger. That's going to encourage you to be sexual. That's going to encourage you to escalate and be physical and take risks and go for it and burn your boats as I say. That's going to encourage you to not take phone numbers or focus on long lengthy conversations where you're getting to know each other or building deep rapport. Okay. A night gamer is very much smash and grab. A good night gamer who does a lot of SDLs, they're in the club, they're very physical, they're bouncing around the club but they're thinking all the time about okay when the club is winding down where am I gonna take care afterwards, you know, is it pizza or is it an after party and where am I gonna bang her? Is it on the beach? Is it in an alley behind the club? Is it in a car? Is it back at my place? Is it back at her place? And a night gamer is very driven. Yeah. I like it. I like their energy. I like that, oozing of testosterone. It's very evident. Whereas a day gamer often thinks, well, I'm in today game because I'm not one of those guys so therefore I'm gonna take it really easy I'm gonna make it really conversational I'm gonna keep it really low key I'm gonna focus on phone numbers I'm gonna focus on coffee dates I'm gonna focus on conversation because I'm going for the sweet girls, I'm going for the good girls, I'm going for the girl next door, I'm going for girls with character. That's what many day gamers say When really they're forgetting as I say that daygame is dirty. Daygame is often dirtier than night game it certainly can be if you're doing very fast middle of the day same day lays. You're misunderstanding the true nature of women and that good girls are just bad girls who haven't been caught and that in every good girl there's that potential, there's the animal instinct inside her that you can bring out. Even the super good girls, even the religious girls, I would argue that by being repressed, pushing it down, they're actually thinking about sex a lot more than the girl who goes to the club every Thursday, Friday, Saturday and has sex every Thursday, Friday, Saturday. Okay? It's often the very very very religious girls that I've slept with or the virgin girls or the high IQ girls or the introverted girls, they are gagging for it. So in daygame we need to remember this. We need to remember why we are doing it. That's why I said in the last podcast, if you're getting a bit static or a bit bored of daygame, do some gutter game. Do do a, burn your boats mission where you leave your phone at home and you think, okay, I'm gonna go out there today and I'm gonna see how far I can take it. Step one is approaching the girl, step two is bouncing her on an eye date, and step three is maybe a bar or straight back to my or her apartment. Yep. The focus of this podcast is the phrase begin with the end in mind. A famous self help saying which, we're gonna gonna put into action. You might have heard it from that book, the seven habits of highly successful people by Stephen Covey. I love that sentence. Begin with the end in mind. Of course, it applies to a business plan or it applies to, anything you're setting out to do, losing weight, giving up smoking, making loads of money, traveling around the world. But definitely, definitely, definitely have that tattooed onto your arm when it comes to daygame. Begin with the end in mind. What is the end goal? We've already said it's sex. In that book, says, something along the lines of I'm paraphrasing it here, but he says, all things are created twice. So once in your mind and then we're working out how to bring that into a physical existence. Yep, so in your mind before you go out for your day game session or before you go on that date you should be visualizing sex with a hot girl or with that specific girl you're going on a date with. Now it sounds stupid again it sounds obvious but many guys don't do this. They go out daygaming visualizing numbers or even worse they go out, or before they go out they visualize having nice chats or having a fun time with the wing or taking some exercise or stretching their legs. They are not in animal mode. They are not in beast mode. They are not in predatory mode. They are not thinking about what they're doing this for. So I want you not as a wishy washy life coach visualization technique but as a real thought process before you go out of your door to do daygame or you go on that date stop and just say to yourself okay I'm going out today to get laid end goal is to get laid So everything else that you're doing, remember your backwards engineering just to get to that point. Yep. You can visualize, taking a girl on an instant date. You can visualize some of my techniques like tiger eyes, married on a move, Torero toe. You can visualize yourself making a verbal spike. You can visualize taking that girl, from the I date to a bar. You can visualize walking her back to your apartment, you can visualize her coming in your apartment, you can visualize her on your sofa, you can visualize making out with her then taking her to the bedroom, you can, see this in your mind's eye which therefore means you're ready, you're prepared, you're motivated, you know what you're doing this for. Same with going on a date. You're visualizing okay where you're going to be sitting, how you're going to be, behaving. You're going to visualize the verbal escalation, the physical escalation, the kiss. You're gonna visualize moving from venue one to venue two. You can imagine taking her from venue two to the front door of your place, her coming up the stairs or the lift wherever, coming in once again sofa bedroom. So that's not wishy washy. That is a kick up the ass to say wakey wakey. No outcome independence. Outcome dependence. Goal. Have a fucking go. Otherwise, as the cheesy saying goes, you can't score a goal. So visualize, I like to say to students, compliance. So the easiest, thing if life was so simple and beautiful would be to just walk up to the girl in the street or she's sitting in a coffee shop, walk up to her, tell her she looks nice, have a bit of a flirtatious, banter and then take her and go and have sex. That's massive compliance if a girl just comes straight back to your house. It can happen, it does happen, but it's rare, obviously. So what's a step back from that biggest compliance? It's taken her, to an eye date and then back to your house. Less compliance and that would be eye date one venue another venue then back to your house. Less compliance would be just the eye date. Less compliance would be phone number date and then late etc etc etc. You're winding it back but as they say in sales go for the big compliance first and then you can always ask. You can wind it back for smaller compliance. Second, if she says no to the big compliance. Much better than just, shooting yourself in the foot by going for small compliance and surprise surprise that's what you get. So day gamers are massively guilty of this. Their focus is phone numbers and there's guys in London and New York, who are obsessed about collecting phone numbers. They get a high off phone numbers. It's an addiction. They feel like the week has been a massive success if they've got a load of phone numbers. They're forcing phone numbers. They know that game's not solid on the street, but they're collecting flaky phone numbers and sure I'm not having a go at these guys it's part of the process and it's good that they're going out and phone numbers are okay it's it's the first step on the road but we can't see that as the end game so don't go out there visualizing phone numbers same with eye dates I had a good Skype coaching session the other day with a student who was obsessed about eye dates and he was asking me questions about technicalities of getting her on the eye date, what to do on the eye date, what to say, how to structure it and I stopped him halfway through, his questioning about I dates and I said look what is the I date for? And he couldn't say, he hadn't really thought about it. He visualized the I date as a real date, and that was his only goal really for the month, the year to get loads and loads of I dates and I explained what the purpose of an I date was for which is I've said, on I date videos on my YouTube channel. I don't do many eye dates anymore because I don't see the difference between just taking a solid number and, going on an eye date with her. My flight rate seems to be the same. I'll only do an eye date if I'm going for the same day lay so it's like a it's a bridge, it's a bounce or I can see she's really nervous, she doesn't trust me, she needs a bit more grounding. And yeah, I could stand on the street and do a bit more grounding and a bit more comfort getting her to invest bloody bloody blah, but going and sitting on a wall or sitting on a bench or taking her for a ten minute coffee if she's shy, if she's, Asian maybe in, if in Japan I was doing this a lot just take her for a mini I date, solidifying the number. Okay. So I know I stand a better chance, a better chance of her texting me back, us going on a date and therefore me sleeping with her. Sex. Sex is the goal. So we're doing an I date when it improves our chances of getting laid. We're doing any technique in my toolkit in street hustle when it improves the chances of us getting laid. I'll say that again and again and again. Alright. The purpose of the stages of the universal blueprint, you know, I. Attraction number one, comfort number two, seduction number three, that's in every, model whether you do night game or Tinder or online or whatever. You're starting with attraction, then you're doing comfort, then you're seducing. The purpose of those three stages is to get to the sex, which is the peak of seduction. That's why it's three d. I say it's fluid. It's polyphonic. You can weave in attraction and comfort and seduction together. When you're good, you'll understand that, you need to pick up on the signals and you're adapting it to maximize your chances of sex. So no, I don't follow a model in a rigid fashion. It's good for beginners to have a bit of structure, but when you get good, you are adapting to the type of girl, to the situation, to the vibe of it. It's hard to describe, but you you can feel where the girl's at. Does she need more attraction? Do you need to bed it down with comfort? Are you good to go? Is she ready to to be seduced? It's like clutch control, I've always said on a pedal. You you kind of know where you are and you know what the car needs. Anyway, let's let's get a bit more specific because that was me ranting on and reminding you about trying to get laid, not just trying to align your chakras. But let's start at the end, which is her in your bedroom or your p next to her v and then we'll backwards engineer it all the way to you approaching her during the day. Okay? And we'll think about practical things, that you can focus on. So let's imagine her right next to you. Maybe you're, getting it on, you're naked, your p is almost in the v. Let's think about what you need. Probably she's back at your place or you're in her place. It's isolation. Yeah, it could be a car. Yeah, it could be a park but nine times out of 10 she's back at your place, you've got your logistics sorted or you're back at her place much better if she comes back to your place obviously because logistics are in your control I've said that a million times So in my room before I go out on a date or even when I'm daygaming for an SDL, the mood light is on next to my bed, the curtains are closed, the bed is made. There are condoms accessible very near the bed. Yep. I've got a playlist downloaded onto, an iPad, an iPhone or my laptop. And the keyword there is downloaded because don't rely on the Internet. It can really fuck you up if suddenly the Internet cuts out and the mood is killed. Yeah? So, for guys just new to my channel or new to the podcast, they say what playlist should I have? Should it be Barry White? No. Should it be Sarday? No. I always use, just Google sheepy mix or mister suicide sheep. It's a YouTube channel with these hour, hour and a half, two hour long dubstep, chill, liquid drum and bass trap very kind of dreamy seductive sexy music and you don't need to change the track. Myself and fellow daygamers and seducers have used usually the same track many many many many times and it works. So just get that ready. Okay? And in in the bedroom when she's in the bedroom or she's on the sofa be thinking, okay, yeah, I'm gonna push, through token LMR using all the techniques in street hustle, but I'm not gonna go past the point of no return if I feel it's better gameplay that I could run another date. Maybe this girl really does need a bit more comfort, bit more time. We're gonna do the two date model, maybe even the three date model although we should be a you know plan a like I always say is sex on the first date, plan b, second date, plan c on the third date. But you're aware of that in the bedroom. Remember you're thinking of maximizing your chances of having sex, not just getting like a crappy handjob, freaking her out by over escalating and then never seeing her again. Yep. You might write on a field report, oh, that was a victory, man. That was so fucking cool. You know, she came back and got a handjob. Oh, it was crazy. Yeah but is that calibrated? Is that intelligent? Did you have the end goal in mind of seeing her next time perhaps and not escalating so much remember clutch control and having sex with her next time. So consider that. Okay. Think about the living room. Have you tidied up basically? Yep. You don't need to be anally tidied tidy to get anal, but, you do have to clear away the the pizza boxes and, make it look vaguely okay. So is there alcohol in the fridge? Is the table lamp on? Kill the main light. That's not sexy. Yeah? Is your guitar ready? Is your shisha pipe ready? Is your laptop ready? Have you hidden all your porn and pickup windows and things on your desktop? That's fucked me up sometimes before. Here's a good one. Is the light on in your hall? So as soon as you open the front door, does it look not scary? If you're going for same delay or got a game or you're just about to go out on a date, that's what I do. So I've got mood lamp in the bedroom side lamp table lamp on in the living room and big light on in the hall so you've kind of got that gradient as I've said before of strong light when she walks in and she feels okay down to sexy lights in the bedroom. Again, in your control. Think about that. Backwards engineer it. The venues. I've nagged you so many times about this. Have you got venue one and venue two sorted? Guys will say, what's the best bar in this city for a date? What's the sexiest bar? I say it doesn't really matter. What matters is the proximity of those bars to your front door. Okay? Even if you've got a crappy bar, I've done it in Starbucks, know, that that really doesn't matter. That's much better if that place is close to yours than a really cool bar that's very far away. So think about Venue 2. Is it no more than ten minutes from your front door? Do you know the closing time? Do you know how busy it is? Do you know if the sofas are available? Do you know if the music's too loud? Venue 1. Do you know if it's near a meeting place that she can find? Do you know about the seating for venue one? Do you know about the drinks in Venue 1? Do you know the distance from Venue 1 to Venue 2? All these things are in your control which are maximizing your chance of having sex. Do you know some plush disabled toilets? Starbucks often have really big disabled toilets. Do you know, toilets where you could take a girl in an emergency? Do you know parks where you could take a girl in an emergency? Do you have a closing location? Do you have a car somewhere? Do you have dirty RV like we had in Canada? This is about getting late. So we're not really focusing on does this bar have the best cocktails or is this bar got five star reviews? No. We're thinking where can I fuck her? Where can I fuck her? Where are we in isolation? Because remember you're verbally escalating, you're physically escalating but as I say the one that guys forget is isolation. A shy girl will only do things in isolation. She doesn't want to look like a slut. Asian girls will only do things in isolation. Okay? It's only crazy Welsh girls or American girls that will suck you off in McDonald's, let's say. Anyway, wind it back even more. So let's say we've done the bedroom bit, we've thought about the living room bit, we've thought about the dating bit. Oh I should say also about dating structures and my dating model and all my gam bits and my toolkit and my routines and my ladders. Guys get so carried away with learning that stuff that they forget it's for getting laid. A good example is the kiss. Guys will go on and on and on about did I kiss her? I didn't kiss her? How do kiss her? When should I kiss her? I say sometimes often it's better not to kiss her until she's back in your apartment because you don't burst the bubble and it maximizes the chance of getting laid. So you're not focusing on the kiss, you're focusing on getting laid. Does the kiss help you get laid? Use those techniques to get laid. Don't just use them in random isolation and over, egg the pudding as they say. Yeah. Think about is that calibrated, is that the right time to use it. Now of course easier said than done. It does come with experience but in the venue like I say to all my students, take a break, go into the bathroom look at look at yourself in the mirror, splash some cold water on your face if you've had one too many beers and think endgame, endgame, having sex with this girl. Where am I in the model? How am I going to get her into isolation to have sex with her? Yeah. Sounds stupid, but guys will sit in a venue for hours talking about their PhD and their hobbies and going into deep rapport about her religion or backpacking. They forget why they stopped there on the street which was that they wanted to sleep with her. Okay. So once again, by not hiding your dick both to her and yourself, it makes this whole thing easier. Think about the eye date. Why are you doing the eye date? I've already mentioned that yeah either you're grounding the interaction or you're going for the same day lay think about taking the number let's wind it back even more why are you taking her phone number have you checked that she's not a same day girl? Is the eye date possible? Is the number always the best thing? Now guys will always say, of course the number is the best thing. Well, maybe your Instagram's the best thing if she doesn't trust you. Yep. Or you want to DH for a little bit and you're going do Instagram messenger. Facebook. I don't really use Facebook anymore, but for some people, for some girls, Facebook is an option. In Japan we were using I think it's called line, which is good. In Russia I was using contact which is like their Facebook. But anyway, why are you going for the number? Are you going for the number too soon? Have you checked like I said that, you can't just take her on a date there and then and take her home? Because guys are so obsessed with number closing that they haven't even thought about the possibility that this girl's on. Okay? If you don't know the same day lay characteristics, it's in my first book, daygame. I think it's in my second book, Torero Travels and it's definitely in street hustle. And let's wind it back right to the beginning. You've stopped her. Why have you stopped her? Are you stopping girls in nice guy mode? Are you stopping girls because you like chatting? Are you stopping girls with the vibe of I want to be your friend? Or I hope because you listen to these podcasts and watch my videos, are you stopping girls with intent? The the subtext is I find you attractive. I want to put my d in your v. She should know that, I say to students, within ten seconds. A good daygamer will have conveyed that within one second as soon as he's jumped in front of us, sometimes even before off an IOI or just as he's wheeling in, flirtatious eyes, cheeky smile, she thinks he wants to fuck me. He's a sexual he's a sexual threat. Okay? There's intent. Now, no, you don't walk up to the girl, and kamikaze it. This is where guys get the wrong idea with being direct. They go up to the girl and say, hey, you're hot. I wanna fuck you. You know, the apocalypse opener. No. That's not smooth and socially intelligent. Girls like it under the radar secret society. So you do it with your eyes, do it with that sexy silence, do it with your handhold, you do it with a Torero toe. Of course, like I say, statements of intent in the interaction so I think you look nice at the beginning, you have a sexy accent in the middle and I find you attractive, I'd like to take you for some wine at the end before the number close but she should be in no doubt why you're stopping her. So we're coming to the end of the podcast that was, a lot of content I've been rambling on I thought it would go quicker than that but there we go. Like I said sounds so obvious doesn't it? The purpose of pickup is to have sex but, I bet you're sitting there thinking fuck yeah, does she know what I want? Am I thinking of the end goal? Am I beginning with the end in mind? Until next time. Ta ra.