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# Episode 93 Bedroom Blueprint

**Speaker 0:** Once more from South America, Tom Torero podcast 93. This week on token last minute resistance tactics. LMR, last minute resistance. Notice the word token. I shouldn't have to explain why it's, token and not real. I know the word resistance sounds very odd if you're not in the pickup community, but LMR is just the niggles that a girl has when she's back at yours. She doesn't wanna be judged. She doesn't wanna feel like a slut, so you get the Tom and Jerry cat and mouse gameplay dance. No. It's not a real no. We're gonna talk about the difference, how you can tell, obviously how you're not going to go past that if it's a real no. I shouldn't have to say all this stuff but because it's on iTunes because it's on YouTube people see hear that word resistance how to get past resistance they misunderstand it so don't take it out of context please. Don't fucking email me about it. I'm trying to help you out here. This is not about daygame. This is not about texting. This is not even about dating. This is about the final piece of the puzzle that I was so keen put on show in stealth seduction. Because it's all very well going on a date with a girl. It's all very well kissing her. It's all very well her coming into your apartment. But what happens next if this is cold approach, not warm approach. Yeah. So we're gonna be talking about that today. Very practical stuff. Before then, just a reminder, stealth seduction is out, my infield video product over seventeen hours. I've got lots of lovely reviews. I shall leave a link below on iTunes and YouTube to stealth seduction reviews so you can check it out. You can check out what's inside. Lots of nice emails, some good feedback as well in amongst the trolls obviously. Some feedback saying Tom I wish it was more flashy, I wish it was faster, know, why have you not edited the majority of the dates or the pickups? You know, you you just can't please everybody because if I had made a product that was heavily edited and it was just flash game for clickbait, you could say, you know, me dressed up as Spider Man doing pickup. Yeah, it's a lot easier to watch and digest and share but no, I wanted to do it from start to finish and that means the boring bits of the date, that does mean the rapport, that does mean a bit of baby talk if she doesn't speak English. Because the game is played in comfort or certainly the timings involve comfort. Sure, you do the attraction, she hooks, she invests and then you are killing time for a lot of the time. You're getting her comfortable enough where you escalate. I'm not saying you fall into the comfort quicksand. I know that moment when I think, yep. This fish is happy to be on the hook. I'm gonna reel her in. Fractionation, on off on off. A good pickup artist knows when to reel in and when to release. Yep. That is why stealth seduction shows you all different types of situations with all different types of girls, not just the crazy party girls as a beginner might say, but the good girls. The girls next door, the religious girls, the sweet girls, the academic girls. And I put out a video this week on why the good girl bad girl myth still exists and why it's still taught in pickup and why it's wrong and why it's harmful for your game. And yeah, that shocked a lot of the guys who are looking for their special snowflake for their princess. But anyway, that's on YouTube. I also did a video today or yesterday now. I'm recording this late in the night. It was on looks versus money versus charisma. What would you rather have if you could only rely on one thing? It went on YouTube. It got some good reactions and obviously it triggered a tsunami of, emails, a lot of troll emails. I've enjoyed just checking them out from the guys who claim that it's all about looks, the gym guys, the guys who claim it's just about money, the game doesn't exist, the sugar daddy guys, it touches a raw nerve whenever you talk about good looking guy game or provider game if you can call that game or pure game as in pure pickup charisma, charm. Yeah. It's a subject that, won't go away. But anyway, that's on YouTube. Also, go to my blog or my site really, tomtorero.com. There's loads of new stuff on there. The cold calling chapters continue most days. That's my new book on former Soviet Union daygame, and I'm giving 90% of it away for free on my blog. So Tom coming at you with endless love going deep inside. There you go. Last announcement before we tackle token LMR. Craig, my senior coach, one of my main wings, he's taught with me around the world. Not only is he great daygamer but he teaches my model. He teaches it very well. I've seen him teach one on ones, boot camps all over the world. He's back from Australia and now he's teaching largely in The UK for now. So if you're in London or Manchester or Birmingham or Cardiff or Bristol or Edinburgh over to Belfast or down to Dublin or even in Western Europe, Craig's there now. So if you want training with him, booking is through me, tom at tom torrero dot com. Alright. Kicking off. Podcast 93, token LMR tactics. I've already said the disclaimer that I'm tired of saying, please don't email me. I'm not advocating going past a real no. This is not rape, ladies and gentlemen. This is dealing with something that exists in nature. Okay? If a girl comes back to a guy's house, she likes him, she wants to have sex, but in evolution, she doesn't want to appear too easy. She doesn't want to appear like a slut. Her forebrain, is full of social programming, maybe religious programming. Her hindbrain, her animalistic senses are saying, yes, I'd like to sleep with this guy ASAP right now. She doesn't want to seem too easy because she doesn't want you to judge her for it or perhaps other people to find out. She wants to see you again in some form even if it's just, for a lover kind of situation. But if she's too easy, she's afraid you're gonna judge her for it like I said. Yep. So forebrain hindbrain conflict in action. You'll see that her flipping between being super keen and then thinking, oh, no. What's happening? The more same day lay as you do, the more you're gonna get LMR. So the faster you run the train, the more LMR you're gonna see. The faster you do your dates, so one venue, one drink, a lot of stealth seduction is that. You're gonna generate this stuff. And I always say if you never see Elimar, if a girl just comes back, drops her jeans and away you go, then she's a yes girl. Alright? Maybe she's from social circle. Maybe it's not game. She's neither hotter than you nor younger than you. So in SMV stats, we'd say she's not two points or more higher than you. So if she's kind of, quote unquote beneath you, not in that good sexual way, but you're you know, you could be doing better. This is the problem with a lot of Tinder and online. She comes back, yeah, you sleep with her. Was it game? Would would she have just slept with you anyway if you've just gone to the bar and said, let's go and have sex? That's something entirely different. We've all done it even through daygame, even through cold approach pickup. You meet girls who are just on, we call them yes girls. It's fantastic. It's a gift from God. Yeah, you can get a hot yes girl who is younger and hotter than you. That's fantastic. But it's not tight technical gain. Although, hopefully, she is tight. So we're talking about girls that are hotter than you, younger than you, they're sexy. It's cold approach, it's the usual texting, it's the usual dating, and you're gonna see luckily the same predictable token LMR. So that's why if you read my first book daygame or even Torero Travels or if you watch stealth seduction, it's not surprising when the token LMR rears its head. You can't let it throw you off balance, throw you off course because what she's gonna bring up is basically the same and interestingly around the world even if you're using Google translate like I did today that's the story I'm gonna tell today doing it in South America and Spanish stuff coming up and we're doing it all either on the phone, Google translate when you speak into your phone and it speaks back to you or later on we were doing it on the laptop and the same token LMR came up. Can you think what girls say to you as you're pulling from the bar to your house? Here we go. They say, this is so fast. I don't normally do this. I don't even know you that well. This is the first time this kind of thing has happened. We should slow down. Maybe next time, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. This is the first kind of flavor of token LMR. Okay? Now, guys that take girls completely literally, they'll just say, oh, that's definitely no sex then. Or often even today the girl was like, just so you know, we're not gonna have sex. She even said that on the instant date. I'll talk about that in a minute. But, yeah, a logical guy will go, okay, she said we are not going to have sex so therefore we shall go and walk in a park. Now, if you know game, if you know street hustle, you listen to her actions not her words and that doesn't mean ignoring her no, but it means, something much wider. Calibration means looking at many different signals. Okay? What is her body telling you? You're giving her an opportunity to leave, obviously. That is the best way to work out if it is really token because you obviously back off. You give her plenty of opportunities to leave. You leave the door open, you go to the bathroom, maybe you suggest going for a walk like I did today in the middle of all this token LMR. And if she's still there and she's hugging you and kissing you and there's mutual escalation where you're listening to her body. Okay? So we'll come on to that as well. Instant seduction, you hear it on the lay with the English doctor. You hear some of this token stuff with the 19 year old same day lay. You hear it in that park pool in Moldova. So none of the stuff that girls say should come as a surprise to you. If you've done enough lays or even if you've got blue balls, you'll be facing the same kind of thing. So the first thing to say is don't let it surprise you. Be ready for it. It's like shit tests. Guys fail every single time because they're not ready for her saying, how old are you? Why are you single? Do you have children? What do you want? That's the nuclear shit test. Yeah. Or even on the street, I have to go. I'm busy. Why didn't you give me your number? And guys freak out as if this is the first time they've ever heard it when it's so predictable. Thank god for predictability in game. You need to learn responses to those. So let's say she's been on the date with you you've done a verbal escalation you've done a little bit of physical escalation as I've spoken about many times you've seeded the bounce and now you're back at your place She comes in and the first way to test if she's comfortable is back off. So when they come into my apartment, back off. Don't jump on her. Don't push her against the wall and make out even if you've been making out in the date venue. Just back off and I just rummage around the fridge, go to the laptop, make her some tea, pour some wine, go to the bathroom, even leave the door open if you want. Yeah. Back off. Just give her lots of excuses to go. So if she really wants to go, she will go. And that theme continues through the escalating back at yours. You are on and then you are off or rather you start off and then you are on. So in the Colombian lay video and audio on stealth seduction, you see the physical escalation in the date venue. And then back here when we're watching Vicky Christina Barcelona, you hear me off and then on with some kissing, then off with the movie, then on. You hear all this stuff two steps forward, one step back and when you're stepping back that's giving her the opportunity to say look, I'm really uncomfortable or whatever. They'll call their sister, they'll call their friend, make an excuse, they'll go. If they don't wanna be there, they'll go. So it's certainly not on on on. Pull, pull, pull, pull, pull because that will snap the fishing line and it's too much. It's not calibrated. It's not smooth. What else do I do? Well, in that infield on stealth seduction and also today, I was calling it out before she raised it. This is called pacing. Pacing her reality. I call it elephant in the room, a little bit fourth wall. So even in the bar or when I'm walking back I say things like wow we've only just met like a couple of days ago this is crazy or on the sofa I say you know we should slow down I can't focus on the movie here this is wild. You're a bad influence, you are. Yeah. I'll flip the script in a cocky, ironic, smirky way. Yeah. So I say, oh my god. I'm such a sweet boy. I'm a virgin boy and you're corrupting me here. I'm trying to watch a movie. What are you doing to me? My mother's gonna be shocked. Also, like I said, pace her reality. Excuse me. So today I was saying, yeah, this is so fast. This is crazy here in South America. You know, in London, is normal, but but here I know this is fast. I know we've only just met. Sometimes I say this thing about my imaginary friend where I go, wow. Well, I was telling my friend that I met you on the street. Actually, said, you stop me on the street, bad girl. No. I was saying to him, I met you on the street. And he said, oh my god, Tom. This is crazy. Like, she could be a mass murderer. She could have an axe. She could have a a knife in her bag. And what that does is call out the elephant in the room and the girl usually goes no no no that's okay. You know, I told my friend as well and she said it was cool. So that's pacing, that's elephant in the room. Then escalation, I've already said the rule for escalation at any point but especially back in your place to avoid too much token LMR is two steps forward one step back off on off on. Yeah. Badass Buddha. Badass Buddha. Badass Buddha. Testing for compliance nice and smooth. Anyway, let's go on to the story from today. I got laid today. No more blue balls. Thank God. And why it's such a good example of overcoming token LMR. So to give you a bit of context, I met this girl a few days ago when I was out with my wing. We were doing some day game here. We had come back from the Pablo Escobar thing in Guadalupe, and normal day game session, fun in the sun, stopped the girl, Ian was watching and then I actually was saying to this girl, she's 20 years old, she's she works in an office, she's not a student, she's petite, just my type, dark hair, dark eyes and I was actually saying to her in English she didn't really understand because her English is very very limited watch my video on why you don't need to speak their language and how you can get laid without using their language or nonverbals, you see it with the Japanese same day delay as well on stealth seduction. Anyway, I was trying to say to her, next time we will have a drink. And with shitty, communication, even with my shitty sign language, she thought I was saying let's go for a drink now so she said okay let's go and she bounced me to a cafe. Ian was giggling because he knew I wasn't going for the instant date I think. She instant dated me to a cafe we had a drink and beautifully she paid. I did pull my money out but she paid so straight away I was thinking, this is a cool girl. It was it was nice. We were using Google translate on my phone. She'd never seen it before. Not the one where you type but download the app and you can just speak into it and it speaks back Spanish to her and then she speaks into it and it speaks English to me. So it's all very fun. It's all very easy. I did the usual getting to know you stuff, a few little spikes, you know, how many husbands do you have? What do you like about me? She said, why did you stop me? She did a few of the shit tests. How old are you? Why are you single? Why are you here? Just checking I wasn't a pay for play sex tourist, all that stuff. I'm talking about that a lot in cold calling as well on my blog because you'll get this a lot especially in Russia, Ukraine, Moldova, Belarus. A lot of street shit tests. Anyway, took the number, been texting back and forth. She's busy with her work. She's been traveling as well. So the only time we could do was today around what was it? I think about half past twelve after lunch today. But she said she had the afternoon free, and I had another date set up for this evening, which ultimately flaked, but it's a case of backing the right horse and scheduling. So I thought, okay. I'll put her at half twelve. I know she's got nothing to do and I will bring her straight back or via another smoothie. And I'd already in the text conversations mentioned to her, you know, what does she like and she said ice cream and then I said I've got you some ice cream and she was like oh have you tried this particular local beer and I said no and she said oh I'll try to get that for you too so nice little investment routine getting her to invest and the ice cream for me is seeding. Yep. So the fact that I said I've got you some, if you read between the lines that means it's in my apartment. I also did the trick that you see on a street hustle video where I turned up to meet her carrying a shopping bag. Had I just been shopping? No. So the trick is you get an empty shopping bag, you fill it up with a few things from your kitchen cupboard and you go and you meet her. And it had coffee in there and it had, whatever, some fruit. She was a little bit late, met her, had this shopping bag, it was luckily very hot. She said I'm hot. I said yeah I'm hot too, let's go and eat the ice cream. We grabbed the takeaway smoothie and walked straight back and no niggles really. She came into the apartment. We've got air conditioning. Very nice. Ate some of the ice cream. I was thinking, oh, hallelujah. This is, super easy. God has given me a yes skill. The only game was, you know, little bit of street game, little bit of text game, but she's back we're gonna have no LMR whoopee do let's get laid. Got the laptop out, faffed around for a bit trying to find a movie with Spanish subtitles because her English was like I said shit using voice Google translate sitting on the sofa, found a movie, and, things were going fine. Little bit of on, little bit of off, you know, incidental kino, touching her hair, playing with her hands, arm around her, floppy test, pulling her in, make out. Within ten minutes I thought whoopi do and then we start to see the token LMR. She's like, uh-uh uh-uh movie here means sex and we're not gonna have sex, I'm not ready, this is so fast, we should slow down, I don't even know you, let's just watch a movie. Okay, so I backed off, watch more of the movie like you hear in the Colombian, lay on stealth seduction and then a bit more kissing, bit more playing with the hair and my trick of saying to her fourth wall, know, look what you're doing to me and briefly I put her hand on my dick over my jeans and said look I can't concentrate on the movie. I've got one brain pointing to my actual brain I've got another brain pointing to my dick and she let her hand linger there and she's like oh my god boys are all the same you just want to have sex again that's a shit test you don't back down D H Y D. Don't hide your dick. Do it in a playful manner so I say oh my god yeah, you know we're animals, we're so simple, all guys are liars you know, we're not even listening to you when you're talking. I've not been listening to you or watching the movie I'm just so distracted but anyway I should go and have a cold shower this is crazy. She's giggling then we're lying on the sofa with the laptop next to us watching, a little bit of dry humping, making out, she's like oh my god we should slow down, We're not gonna have sex. She's got these really tight skinny jeans on. A dress is a lot easier. So in the Colombian lay, the stuff the outfit she's got on made the lay a lot easier but here it was skinny jeans. So you start to think, oh, fuck. You know, and I've got jeans on as well. Now at this point, a lot of guys rip off or try to rip off a lot of her clothes. And ripping off layers because they wanna take her top off or her socks off or something weird, that generates token last minute resistance because her full brain is like, oh, woah, woah, woah, woah, no. And in sales, they call it a no ladder. So if you're generating lots of little no's, she's starting to get more no, no, no, no, you're pulling, pulling, pulling, pulling, it's gonna end up as a as a hard no, a real no where she says, I gotta go. Bye. And you might never see her again. That's the problem with fast escalation. So you back off, you watch more of the movie, then, I was kissing her neck and then because the sofa's great, because the sofa was narrow, I said, look, let's go somewhere more comfortable. We're not gonna have sex. It's cool. I understand. That's a great line. It's okay. I understand. We go into the bedroom. There's air conditioning. Lie in the bed. Put the laptop there. Heavy makeouts. Dry humping. And she was happy leaving her hand on my jeans and then under my jeans, letting me play with her boobs, kiss her boobs, was still when I went to put my hand down her jeans, that's like a magical moment, she was like no no no no no, next time this is too fast' so actually at that point because, I've got a week or so left I thought okay I'm gonna back off completely next time no problem you know did my belt back up went to the bathroom watched the movie and here's the magic thing Once you do that push away, that mini freeze out, the important thing is not to get reactive. So don't be all butt hurt and, you know, look angry. Just imagine that you never tried to escalate at all. So almost friend zone her. Right? You flip the script. And I was just lying there watching the movie. And out of the corner of my eye, I was waiting to see what she did. And sure enough, she snuggled up to me. Sure enough, she put her leg in between mine. And sure enough, she was kinda pressing on my jeans again. So I was thinking, okay. Put my hand down her jeans. No problem. So her hand was down my jeans. My hand was down her jeans. I thought, whoopi do, here we go, pull the trigger. And she wouldn't let it go past that point even though we weren't watching the movie anymore, we were listening to music. So I was saying, oh my god, you know, need a cold shower, stop, you're turning me on, what are you doing to me? I know it's weird here but in London it's normal but it's okay, I understand. Then I went to the bathroom, oh I had taken my jeans off by then, and I went to the bathroom and I put them back on and I came out of the bathroom again, bite your tongue, breathe, be non reactive. I said, listen, let's, go for a walk. Okay? Because, I can't concentrate and I don't need to feel weird. Let's just, go for a walk. And she was the one to say, no. No. No. No. Let's stay here for a little bit longer so again you're picking up on the signals alright if she really had wanted to go and she wasn't comfortable she would have immediately said let's go for a walk but we laid down again and then I was saying things like, come over here or let me kiss you. And this was triggering her saying, oh my god. I don't like you bossing me around. I don't like it when guys tell me what to do. So we opened up Google translate on the laptop and sure enough she said she was raised by her grandmother and I said, oh yeah, you don't you've got this anti male thing. You don't like men and she's like, no no no I like men but I don't like men telling me what to do. So on Google translate it was great. You could do this in slow motion if you're doing Google translate. I was typing things like so you want a weak guy do you? And she's like no no no no no and I said ah you want to make all the decisions do you? No no no no Then I Google imaged a picture of a, like a crazy feminist and I said, this is what many girls, in England they want to be men. This is what they look like. Is this what you want to be like? No no no no no no no no She was just like, I I just, I I don't like it when a guy is, is leading. So I the genius moment, I have to pat myself on the back. I googled a picture of magnets. Two magnets opposite poles attracting each other. I said, look, this is male, this is female, and it's not the man telling you what to do. If the man is strong, the woman wants to be with him. It's attractive. You can't have, the two poles the same. They'll they'll push each other apart and she she was she was smiling, she was nodding and then we were saying, okay. Do you know what a hipster is? And I googled the picture of a hipster. I said, do you want a boyfriend like this? And you have to make all the decisions. And she was like, no, no, no, no, no, no. Anyway, bit more kissing, bit more dry humping. A trick with the jeans, you you finger in her, you've got your hand down your jeans and then you say, look, my hand hurts. My fingers hurt. Let's just take off your jeans. Just just to play. Alright? I don't wanna make you do anything you don't wanna do. And you're fingering her. She's got her hand down your boxes, so you're 99% of the way there. There was a little bit more like, oh, next time I'm not sure and a genius line is to say, look, how old are you? You know, she said, I'm 20. I said, I understand you're like a teenager. You know, when I was a teenager I was uncomfortable a little bit. I was nervous or I enjoyed game playing. She's like no no no no no. I'm not a teenager. I don't like games. I like being honest. Then I said, let me get a condom. She said, okay, bish bash bosh, sex was amazing, she's coming over tomorrow. So there you go, that was completely normal, that's to be expected. Has that happened hundreds of times before? Yes. Does she really wanna have sex? Yes. Was was I doing anything I shouldn't be doing? No. Because if you understand male female dynamics and the dance, game is not a war or a boxing match, game is this cat and mouse dance. I say it's like Tom and Jerry because it's a love hate relationship. They love each other. Alright? I shouldn't have to explain why it's token LMR and not real resistance. Alright? So please, no emails about it. I'm trying to help you out here because this is the missing piece of the puzzle for a lot of guys. They can get girls back over, but then they don't know what to do. They don't know how to escalate smoothly. That's as much as I can describe really. If you really wanna hear it in action, see it for real, the only way is to watch over seventeen hours of my videos on stealth seduction. Girls all over the world, different types of girls, different situations, same day lays, first date, second date, even third date, even five dates with that Polish virgin. Yeah? So there you go. Don't be afraid of token LMR. Be ready for it. Remember some of my tips and tricks. Remember off and on. Remember badass and buddha. Remember smooth fractionation. That is the name of the game. Next week's podcast, where will I be? Maybe back in The UK, maybe still in South America. I can't remember. But, anyway, until then, keep grabbing life by the horns, and I'll speak to you next week.