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# Episode 98 Raw Red Pill Truths

**Speaker 0:** Good morning. Good afternoon. Good evening, ladies and gentlemen. Tom Torero podcast 98 in transit heading back to Europe for the start of my, quote, unquote, hunting season, fishing season. Looking forward to it. Looking forward to some long legs. Looking forward to some Slavic features. Looking forward to Middle Europe. Looking forward to Russian adventures. Yeah. I'm I'm ready. I've been in New York City. I've been with family before that. I was in South America, as you know. So rock and roll. May the force be with you. I hope you go deep inside this year. Give it all you've got. I hope 2017 is a magical daygame year for you too. In other news, before we begin this podcast on real, raw red pill truths, I have finished the serialization of my new book called cold calling, which is about daygaming in the former Soviet Union. It's not all of the book. I put 28 parts of it for free on my blog. The epilogue is on there now as well. So go and read up on daygaming in Russia, Ukraine, Moldova, The Baltics, Czech Republic, Poland, and, hints and tricks and tips and techniques. There's gonna be more in the final book. As I say, there's gonna be maps. There's gonna be far more details about visas, where to go, what to do, things to take, etcetera. But, anyway, cold calling is done. Daygame three point zero is edited. That was my seminar in London, and it's been uploaded to the vault section of stealth seduction. So if you got stealth seduction, click on the vault. You've got four parts to that three and a half hour ish seminar on moving from intermediate daygame advanced daygame. It explains what I'm doing a little bit more in the infield product because ironically, I made the infield product a 100% infield as I thought guys would want. And a lot of the feedback was we like infields, but we want more theory. And I'm like, Jesus. Okay. I thought my seminar days were done, but there you go. All my new, mindsets, tools, and techniques, what I do in stealth selection, it's in the seminar. There you go. Okay. No more upsell. Podcast 98 is on real red pill truths. And I started the epilogue of cold calling with a quote, an ancient Russian proverb that says, it's better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a And this is what this podcast is about. It is not about tools and techniques of daygame. This is about something much wider, but I'll finish the podcast with some practical applications for you boys that are out there doing daygame. So this sounds a little bit wishy washy. It might sound a bit like mental masturbation, but it's really important because it affects your daygame. It affects your texting. It affects your dating. It affects your relationships. And that is the truths of evolutionary biology and genetic replication. These are hard truths. These are shocking truths. If you come from a quote unquote blue pill background, a nice guy background, an idealistic Disney romantic background like me. You learn about these things and it's shocking. In podcast 44, if you've been listening for over a year, I think it was, maybe last January 2016, I spoke about the purple pill, which is this dilution of pickup, this watering down of pickup, watering down hard truths to make them more palatable or cynically more sellable. This is why a lot of coaches and companies do it. So listen to podcast 44. You should know about red pill versus blue pill, and probably you know what purple pill is. Red and blue pill comes from the matrix where you can either stay in blissful ignorance. That's the old nice guy. Or you can go down the rabbit hole, and you can keep going down the rabbit hole. That's red pill. But here's the problem. The term red pill is used for everything now. It's in the mainstream. It's on all blogs. It's on all vlogs. It's all over Twitter. It's everywhere. Guys adopt this term and whether they they know they're misunderstanding it for a religious or a political reason maybe they're hijacking it in terms of an ideology like Scientology or Creationism or whether they are they're just blissfully ignorant of what red pill actually is. So I'm gonna speak today as a biologist or a former biologist. I studied biological sciences at Oxford University. One of my professors was Richard Dawkins. You could say Darwin's successor in explaining evolutionary biology. Darwin came up with the big picture with other people, and Dawkins filled in the gaps in terms of the genetics. So we'll talk about that. But it's shocking. It's shocking when you get into game, when you discover all this stuff about what women actually do and what women are actually attracted to and how men behave. Well, it's not shocking how men behave. You know that on an instinctive level. But when you find out what turns women on, golly gosh, it's so different from what your mom or your sister or general dating advice told you. I had the shock much earlier, way before game in 1997, 1998 when I had a reading list to go to Oxford University. Obviously, the top book was the selfish gene by Richard Dawkins. And this book shattered me. It actually triggered anxiety and depression as I talk about in my first book, daygame. It shattered my worldview because, it says the unit of selection is the gene. You could say the individual, but, really, it's the genes within the individual. And that sounds like such a subtle difference. Textbooks still get it wrong. They say survival of the species. We're replicating for the good of the species. This will be taught in schools. It's certainly taught in American schools. And, again, guys go, yeah, what's the difference between genetic, unit of selection and species level unit of selection? There's a massive difference because this affects, animal behavior, plant behavior, but animal behavior for us. Date dating, mating, reproducing, how we interact. So not for the good of the species, not all peace, love, happiness holding hands, but we'll we'll come on to why Darwinian evolution explains power. And, obviously, therefore, why power explains politics and religion and how we behave, how men and women behave. So just that little difference by reading The Selfish Gene plus obviously The Origin of Species by Darwin is shocking for a lot of people. And in Darwin's day, it obviously was shocking. It caused a massive uproar in the Christian society. Darwin was training to be a priest before he went on the beagle around the world and came up with the evolutionary evidence. People forget that Darwin was a church man, and he was married to a very devout Christian. His wife, Emma, was shocked. So Darwin had to be very careful what he said about evolution. And you find this today when people discover gain. People discover pickup. People start reading red pill truths and they hurt. They sting. But as the saying goes, the truth hurts, but it sets you free. We wanna know how things are, not how we want them to be. That's the theme of this podcast. As I said, it's better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. And all of us wish life was about holding hands and lovey dovey and peace and harmony and no wars and no fighting and men and women being the same and cooperating and everything should be fair and everything should be equal and, nobody should win, nobody should lose, but that's not life. Okay? Richard Dawkins regrets calling it the selfish gene because that implies consciousness on the genetic level or some sinister scheme going on. No. It's just a mechanism. It's just a blind algorithm. As he says, it's it's the blind watchmaker. It's a mathematical procedure. Survival of the species, differences between individuals. Some of those differences confer a reproductive advantage, a survival advantage, and they're passed on. And what a surprise. The offspring of those individuals have the same features on a genetic level and all science points towards nature far exceeding nurture you know obviously super left liberals like to say it's all nurture but scientific studies point to it being nature. That's very un PC in these days to say that but we're not siding with one political party. As you know, I am I'm just not interested. I'm apolitical. I'm not interested in religion or politics. I'm interested in power. I'm interested in Darwinian behavior. And we can look in this podcast at both the left and the right's use of the realities of evolutionary biology and genetic replication and how all religions and how all politics, how all ideologies hijack science, hijack truths. And they water them down knowingly, unknowingly as propaganda. We get purple pill. We'll talk about that today. But first of all, coming back to the shock level. Either you read the selfish gene or you read Tom Torero's textbook street hustle and you're shocked. Getting into this stuff, people have said before, it's like going through a grieving process where you have to shed your former self. I did it when I was 18, and it hurts. And I I kind of did it again in 2009, 2010 when I was doing daygame in nice guy mode, learning all these truths about girls, and it stung. It stung hearing their bad boy stories. It stung knowing that they were going off and sleeping with other people. It stung when I read about the dual mating strategy and that women cheat and why they cheat and why they upgrade. All this stuff, why they weren't sleeping with me, why nice guys finish last. The first stage of getting into game and red pill is shock. Simple shock or denial. Just look at YouTube comments, forum comments. Loads of guys are in denial. Okay? They read the game. They're in denial. This is bullshit. This is not how behavior how girls behave. This is not how my girlfriend behaves. She's different. Then you have the second phase, just like grieving, which is anger. When somebody dies after the shock of it, you feel angry. Why did they die? And in game, guys are obviously really angry. I speak about this in daygame three point zero. The Internet is full of angry guys who are very angry about red pill truths. The third phase is where a lot of guys get stuck in. Depression. When somebody dies, first you're shocked, then you're angry, then you go into a spiral of depression. And you read about these red pill truths and you think, fuck. Women are bitches. That's the anger. Oh, what's the point? I'm just gonna go my own way. Men going their own way. I can't be bothered. Women are a complete waste of time. I can't believe this is how the world works. I can't believe this is what is true in terms of Darwinism. God is dead. Oh, shit. Alright. Then a slightly more complex phase after the depression. You start to bargain. If I do this, can I feel like this? Can this person be brought back? And bargaining in terms of red pill is purple pill where a guy understands some red pill truths but he says, I wanna keep hold of my former self. Or pickup coaches say, yeah, you can learn a few little game things, but don't worry. It's still about finding the one, and we will help you find the one because there are special snowflakes. And finally, the last stage of grieving or getting into game is acceptance. For some guys, that takes a couple of months. For some guys, it takes a couple of years, a couple of decades. Accepting this is the truth of nature, of genetics. This is how women are wired. This is how men are wired. There isn't a big evil conspiracy against you. This is just how it is. It's amoral. Alright? It is like a kitchen knife. It is like gravity. This is just what things are. So I've spoken before about the bitter taste of the red pill. It has massive side effects of depression and anger, etcetera, if you don't swallow it with a healthy dose of action. I never really had the anger or the depression. I had a bit of the bargaining but not the anger or the depression because I was going out and I was meeting lovely girls and I was going on dates with some lovely girls and in the beginning occasionally getting laid and thinking this is fantastic. So if you combine it with action, you shouldn't have massive side effects. You'll occasionally get bitter when a girl flakes, when a girl leaves you for more of a bad boy, when you can't keep a girl around because you're not bad enough, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera, when the nice guy still creeps in, but you'll get over it. So we've defined red pill as the facts of evolutionary biology, how things are, not what we want them to be. And if this is all new to you, you have to do some homework because you probably done your game homework. You're listening to these bloody podcasts. You're listening you're watching in fields. You need to do some homework on evolutionary biology. Book number one you have to read is the evolution of desire by professor David Buss. That is the bible, inappropriate word, but is the bible for genetics and explaining male and female mating, dating behavior. I'll put this reading list below on iTunes and on YouTube and on my blog. The second book you need to read is Darwin's dangerous idea by the philosopher Daniel d Dennett. Fantastic for explaining why the the meaning of understanding permeates everything, permeates politics, permeates religion, permeates sociology, permeates psychology, permeates sports, permeates computer programming. Such a simple beautiful beautiful idea. The idea of evolution, Charles Darwin's beautiful, beautiful idea about how it radically changes the understanding of the world. It flips it one eighty. No wonder people freak out. Then for something a bit lighter, read Sperm Wars by Robin Baker. He takes David Bus's court principles and he puts them into kind of easy to read case studies. So that's a fun book. If you like more geeky stuff, read The Red Queen by Matt Ridley. And then if you just want some pervy beautiful reading, read my secret garden by Nancy Friday, accounts of women's sexual fantasies. Women in the seventies or the eighties, I can't remember, housewives, quote unquote, good girls, k selected girls, the girl next door, what they really fantasize about their sexual fantasies. Okay? That's your red pill reading list and as I said, it can make you depressed but that's just a phase you go through. Then you might bargain, then you're gonna accept it. The quicker you can accept it and move on, the better because these truths aren't gonna go away. Guys are thinking, what's happening? Are are women changing? No. On a genetic level, these aren't gonna change for millions of years. And you use this information positively. You don't see it as a negative. It would be much better if the book, The Selfish Gene, wasn't called selfish because that freaks people out, as I've said. Just see these things, see this knowledge, see these harsh truths as loopholes. And a street hustler certainly exploits these loopholes because you work out how women behave in terms of dating and mating. And, you can see why they behave the way they do and that improves your game. We'll come back to that. Alright. A list of what red pill is not because I am tired of, this watering down. You see it everywhere knowingly, unknowingly. Red pill is amoral. It is neither moral or immoral. It's amoral. Like I said, it's just gravity. So it's not linked to a certain political party. It's not linked to a certain ideology. It's not linked to a certain religion. It's definitely not linked to traditional family values. This is a weird one where you see red pill organizations, red pill marriage, red pill church, red pill evangelical church. They are all contradictions my friend. If you really understand what red pill is, we'll come on to, uh-uh. No way can you link those two. Red pill is is not a gym. Red pill is not a diet. Red pill is not some self sacrifice for a greater good. No way. And red pill is certainly not defending women as in white knighting pedestalizing purity fantasy. Alright. And it's very odd when you see conservative religions like evangelical Christians or strict Muslims using the term red pill because conservative religions or ideologies are actually doing the opposite. They are denying evolutionary biology and they are wanting to stop nature taking its course. So, yeah, it's linked to power and power, yeah, is linked to Darwinism. I'm not interested in religion. I'm not interested in politics. I'm interested in power. That is very, very dark triad. Narcissism, Narcissism, Machiavellianism, psychopathy. Read the 48 laws of power by Robert Green. It's a bit of a messy book because he hasn't applied any of it really to going out there and doing it. Some of the rules seem to some of the laws seem to contradict each other. It could have been better organized. It's a bit woolly, but it's fucking dark, and it's very red pill. Red pill is selfish, quote unquote, even though I've just said, you know, it's a it's a blind watchmaker. Red pill is just not a collective. Although altruism evolved, yes, it did, but altruism is in itself a selfish mechanism. You scratch my back, I scratch yours. Read Lord of the Flies. You'll get an idea of what red pill is from Lord of the Flies. Red pill is about sexual promiscuity. Is that how you say it? Promiscuity? Yes. It is. That's a feature of life. That's not a bug. Don't freak out about that. That is a feature of life. Okay? That is at the heart of the secret society, lovers and providers. That is what red pill is. Red pill is about power. Red pill explains wars. Red pill explains invasions. Red pill explains violence. And now we get darker. Red pill explains rape fantasies. No. Don't take that out of context. But as Robin Baker says in Sperm Wars, it's very puzzling how women behave if you don't understand dominance, war, power, invasion. Yep. People get very confused about the Middle East crisis or why is this street gang up against this street gang. If you understand it all in terms of and power wars and invasions gives you access to the sexual marketplace or a monopoly over the sexual marketplace, then it's all very simple. Darwinian evolution can play can explain all that stuff in two minutes, perhaps two sentences. Darwinian evolution can explain pimping, why women are attracted to to these kind of men. It's very dark, but read iceberg slim's account. Watch a documentary on YouTube called pimp snookie. I talk about this in daygame three point zero. Very dark stuff. Very dark triad. No. I'm not saying become a pimp, but I'm saying understand the reality of the red pill. There's another great documentary I talk about in daygame three point zero called hot girls wanted. It's a Netflix documentary and very, quote unquote, k girls, very innocent girls next door, religious girls fly to, I think it's Miami, to do amateur porn. And they live in a house with a quote unquote jerk, bit like a pimp, and see how women respond, see what attraction triggers are, see what frame control is, see what dominance is, understand why women like this. Yeah? Watch the two part movie Nymphomaniac, Lars von Triste, a girl's sexual history from when she's a teenager to a a woman. The different kinds of sexual relationships, the BDSM, the dominance. None of that can be explained if you don't understand evolutionary biology. I'd really, really, really, really, really encourage you to look at that reading list and start with evolution of desire. This stuff is red pill. Yeah? Anti red pill, purple pill, or you could even say white knight blue pill. Sadly, would be traditional family values, evangelical Christianity, a certain political party, a certain religion, a certain diet. No. Red pill is just sexual dominance. Dominance. The the male of our species is put on this earth to replicate his genes as many times as possible. And whether he does or he doesn't, just the fact of copulating with a woman. That's what he's out there to do. So as I said, sexual promiscuity, it's a feature. It's not a bug. Okay. For the last ten minutes, you're going, Jesus Christ. That was heavy. Tom, give us some practical daygame tips. That's why you listen to the podcast, hopefully. Okay. Why does all that stuff that I've just said affect your daygame? Well, if you don't accept that stuff or if you don't understand that stuff or you misunderstand it on purpose, a la Purple Pill, you reach a ceiling. If you don't accept the secret society, a, you'll never be in it, and b, you just hit a ceiling in your dating and lays very, very quickly. Because something I've recently realized through talking to to nice guys, I was a nice guy, but there are many, many current nice guy daygamers, I. Daygamers approaching and dating and texting in nice guy mode. And that they're looking for the one. They pedestalize girls. They have a purity fantasy. They're looking for special snowflakes. They divide girls into, cheap whores and good girls, as I spoke about in my r k myth video. Those guys are very, very interestingly self sabotaging because I look at them as students and I think they know the theory of dating and they know I've told them about my escalating and I've shown it on stealth seduction. Why don't they do it and why don't they pull the trigger? And I used to just think, oh, it's because they lack the skill or they lack the knowledge knowledge. But no, there's there's something far deeper related to this podcast and that is they don't want to. They don't want to escalate. Think about that. Really think about that. In their hearts, they don't want to sleep with a girl or if they do sleep with her, they feel bad. Why? Because it destroys their purity fantasy. They immediately say, ugh, god, I had a same day lay with that girl. She must be so cheap. That's disgusting. She's not the one. And every girl they sleep with, every sexual experience they have takes them further and further away from their Disney idealistic purple pill or you could say blue pill views. And when I thought about this year, I thought, wow. That explains a lot. That explains a lot of my inability in the past or even a little bit now to escalate on the hotter girls, on the girls you think are sweet, on the religious girls because something inside of you dies. Alright? It's that sting that you get from reading the origin of species or the selfish gene or sperm wars. You just think, oh god. I'm going down this rabbit hole, and I wish I could go back. But as it says in the movie, the matrix, if you go down the rabbit hole, if you take the red pill, you can't go back. And guys who are doing daygame, loads of them are stuck somewhere in the middle. They know the pickup techniques. They know the pickup tools. They they're reading about the underlying science and it's not nice because you really have to abandon your former self. And that affects your daygame. That's gonna affect the kind of girls you pick out to approach because you'll have a selection bias. Right? That'll affect how you tease her on the street, how you challenge her, how far you push it, how sexual you are. That'll affect your eye contact, your hand holding. That'll affect whether you go for fast lays, same day lays. Whether you do gutter game, that will affect whether you leave your phone at home. That will definitely affect your texting because you'll be enjoying the texting too much. You'll be her text buddy. You'll like that affection. Remember my podcast, affection addiction. That's maybe what you're after more than sex. And it will definitely affect the dating. This is in daygame three point zero what I call K two. Because you can think of daygame as Everest. You learn to collect numbers, and then you go, fuck. There's another mountain that's much harder. And in mountaineering, that is K 2. No one's summited K 2 in the winter. And you go, fuck. This is dating. There's another mountain to climb. They didn't tell me that on the pickup website. Website. My coach didn't tell me that. Oh, shit. And dating has all these other issues. They all come down to nice guy nonescalation, being afraid to pull the trigger so the guy stays in one venue. He goes into rapport. He self sabotages by not spiking. He doesn't bounce. He wants to take the good on two, three, four, five, six dates to meet his mother. He wants to believe that she's good. He doesn't wanna find out that she has a sexual side to her. And she's sitting in his house on his sofa. She's sitting on his bed, and he doesn't pull the trigger. And it's not because he doesn't know how, it's because he doesn't want to. So if we think about the grieving process, he's in the bargaining stage. Okay? He's got over shock and denial. He might still be in the second phase of being angry. I have met some angry daygamers. I've met plenty of depressed daygamers at phase three. A lot of guys now in phase four, they're bargaining, purple pill. Yeah. You'd be surprised. This is not just students. I've met pickup coaches, guys that have been doing it for years and years and years that have purity fantasies, Guys that, are still teaching how to get her back or how to get the perfect girlfriend, trying to water down the red pill maybe because they don't want to fully accept it or they know it's better for marketing. And, hopefully, we're getting more and more day gamers that have just accepted it. And they're no longer bitter, but they're using it to their advantage, as I say, in, street hustle. It's a bit like the big short. Yeah. You can either get angry about that financial crisis or you could have predicted it and made lots of money from it. You spotted the loophole and you went for it. Alright. That's me done. I'm heading out. I'm packing my things. I'm going to the airport, but I hope that made sense. And more importantly, I hope that impacts on your daygame. If you wanna know more about this juicy stuff, so dark triad, going deeper, threesomes, BDSM, then watch my seminar, daygame three point zero. It is a free bonus on stealth seduction. The final plug, which is really a plug for you. Please send me your m p three stories about daygame success, funny things, blue balls, how day game has affected your life, maybe knowing all this wider stuff. I've got over 30 recordings so far. Every recording you send me, just email it to me. Attach the m p three to an email, tom@tomtorero.com. Every recording will be on podcast a 100, and there's only one more before that happens. So just record it on your phone, send it to me. You don't have to say your name. You can keep it anonymous. It will inspire other people. I've had recordings from across the world, all age groups, all backgrounds. So that will inspire someone out there who's thinking, should I get into daygame? Should I abandon the blue pill? Should I abandon the purple pill? Should I go full on? And, yeah, should I be slapped in the face with the truth rather than continually kissed with lies? There we go. That was podcast 98. The next one will be in Central Europe. But for now, keep grabbing life by the horns. Ta da.